Weddings, Weddings, Weddings….. (((((Blog)))))

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Hey

Just checking in.. 

Photos below are of my Ex- Walmart Co-workers Diane and Ommunad.  Can you believe they met at work? I went to their wedding Sunday June 15, 2014. I had the best time. And I caught the bouquet. Yeaaaa. lol lol

Guess what? Okay so after realizing that this is what I want to do.. part time, and  eventually having my own business as a Wedding/Event Planner… I remember a good friend of mines is getting married next year. I asked her if I can come along to meet her vendors, cake tasting, wine, dress fitting,  meetings with her wedding party and all the things associated with her wedding. She said yess.. the more the merrier. I just want to come along and get a feel of actual conversations that goes on. I want to learn about contracts, and the process of making a wedding come to life. I’m so excited. I’m coming along to learn, not to take away, but to observe and write down everything I can. Matter of fact it has already started. 

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Ms. Cree a Wedding /Events Planner? ((((((((Blog))))))))

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Hey Yall ( In the voice of CCain68—-Youtube)

For a while now I’ve been thinking about going back to school this fall to become a Therapist . I’m a great listener, give wisdom advice, and to top that off, I’m very private when it comes to other people’s business. As I’m thinking about that. I vision myself sitting in a room listening to my clients. But then out of the blue…. I remembered that I was to go to the web site of a photographer to see photos of a wedding I went to last Sunday of my friends Diane and Ommunad. While viewing them something just clicked in my head. I mean it hit me hard. Very hard. HAMMER HARD… A light bulb went off. I heard sirens, bells and WHISTLES in my head. …….To become a Wedding/Event Planner.

It just makes so much sense. I have the patience to deal and work with different personalities from working 10 years at Walmart * smile*, I love making business calls, and making things happen. I love to meet in person to have all my questions answered and direct communication taken care of. I know how to market myself , on social sites, and in person. I have the gift to console. And the biggest thing I thought about…..I have planned so many events… that THIS MAKES EVEN MORE SENSE TO BECOME A WEDDING/EVENT PLANNER. WHY DIDNT I THINK OF THIS BEFORE? I’m laughing so loud right now!!! HAHAHAHAHA

Now I know why every time a birthday comes up or something that cause for a celebration… people always call me to plan it. I’m just thinking they call me because I love doing it.. .But somewhere in these people minds…. they must feel that I’m good at it. Wow. I never looked at it like that.

I started thinking about the time when I was in my 20’s I’d throw backyard parties for our neighborhood. I became so known for throwing them, that people off the street would ask me… when is the next time you’re throwing another party? After doing that in the summer. I remember planning a coming home party for my brother in the Marines. As time went on, I threw gurl talk parties in my apartment all the time. They were so popular, I would throw them out of the blue all year. We’d eat, talk, laughing, drink and have a good time. Wow, now I know my fascination with  cameras.

I also planned and spoke at my A Virtuous Woman Dinner Gathering that was more on a Spiritual Level, I had close to 50 guest with gifts and a lovely dinner. Several times( about 8 times) I gathered my family and friends on Thursday Nights to the premiere of a Tyler Perry movie.  I always gathered 15 or more to the midnight showing . Even when people had to work the next morning…. I knew how to get them to come out. When that went well…. I planned For Colored Girls Movie and Dinner on a Saturday afternoon and dinner  at Ruby Tuesday… I had a turn out of 32 women at the same movie theater… at the same time. I started my own Youth group called Raisingurls to Women, and also Sistergurls, which was over 100 people in attendance combined. For over a period of 5 years.

In 2008 I started Cree’s feeding the Homeless for Thanksgiving. Every year on that Wednesday before we  pass out dinners. This year 2014 will be our 6th year . I enjoy putting together a menu, plan and a vision to complete it. We also put together Valentines Gift Bags for the homeless and pass them out on that day. I’ve also put together sandwiches and dinners in the summer that we pass out to the Homeless as well.

As I’m typing I’m thinking of more events I put together. I’m apart of Anita Baker and Maxwell Fan sites.. and when they came to Detroit in the past… I helped schedule events for our out of town guest. I was also the Mistress of Ceremonies for the Anita Baker Crew…. yes it was nice!!! I also put together with my cousin Gus, our FAMILY DINNERS AND FAMILY REUNION GATHERING with so much food, fun and love . LOL LOL Wow I forgot all about this. I also helped my BFF Gloria put together her mom and her kids mom birthday party program book…which was very elegant. I’m laughing so hard right now…. LOL LOL I almost forgot.. I WAS THE WEDDING COORDINATOR/PLANNER for my brothers Wedding. OMG. He ask me to do it, because I loved to plan. I’ve never done a wedding before and it was challenging. I bought a book to help me plan and I also looked to the Internet for help. Looking back I left out a few things, but you better believe I KNOW WHAT THEY ARE NOW!!! I forgot all about that. Thank you Jesus for answering my prayers and showing me what I know I CAN DO…. Now its time to do the work * in my Iyanla voice*

For the life of me.. I can’t understand how I didn’t know that this is what I want to do. It has crossed my mind many years ago, but today after looking at those photos, its very clear to me…. that this is who I am. My communication skills, business, marketing, close attention to details … research, writing and planning skills. And guess what? I STILL GET TO BE A THERAPIST/Counselors TO ALL THE PEOPLE INVOLVED WITH THE WEDDING/EVENTS. YEAAA #WINNING

Okay … yall I have work to do!!! Lots of research, classes , and seminars in my area.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

 

6 Signs of a Good Woman…. * MEN PAY ATTENTION* (((((Blog)))))

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6 Signs of a Good Woman

All a man really wants is a good woman by his side. Men have just as hard of a time trying to find a good woman as women have trying to find a good man. Women have to kiss frogs in order to find a Prince and men have to wade through pools of women, who for the sake of the cleanliness of this article we will just say crazy women, worthless woman, b’s, h’s, gold diggers, and you fill in the blanks.

A good woman is comprised of much more than being a woman who keeps a clean house and puts a hot meal on the table.. Things like that are nice and pretty much a necessity depending on the relationship, but they are only the basics. Many women say they want a good man but have you asked yourself if you’re a good woman?

Here are a few traits of a good woman:

1.Encouraging/Supportive/Motivates – A good woman isn’t quiet with no input. She’s full of ideas to help improve your business, outlook in life and overall health. She supports her mans ideas and motivates him to accomplish his goals. A good woman is a good listener. Ultimately she is able to change you without trying. A good woman makes you a better man.

2.She Keeps Him Honest – A man is not allowed to be lazy when he’s in a relationship with a good woman. She makes him honest. If you tend to make excuses for why you can’t do something a good woman will call you out on your bs and make you shape up.

If you want a promotion, but claim to not be able to get one she will quickly let you know that in all honestly you’re not doing enough. A good woman will always encourage her man to make an honest living that he can be proud of. Most importantly she knows how to talk to him and tell him these things without being down on him.

3.King Him – Feeding your man grapes, strawberries and parading around in little enticing outfits is delightful, but what about providing him with some mental stimulation. A good woman not only speaks to the King in her man, but she also treats him as such. She sees potential in him. She treats you like he is the most capable and deserving man in the world, in addition to spoiling and catering to him in the most feminine way.

A good woman will often make a man feel like he’s the only man who exists in her eyes. There is power in a good woman who can push her man to new heights.. A good woman sees greatness in her King. She thinks he’s amazing and makes him feel as such. A good woman is so amazing that she will have a man feeling like Nas, when he made “If I Ruled The World.” She will have him feeling like anything is possible, like he could actually change the world.. Imagine that, or simply google Barack Obama.

4.SHE’S SECURE – A good woman is secure within herself and not easily jealous over other women. She’s not quick to put the next woman down just because she thinks the woman looks good and provides competition to her own looks. No man wants an insecure woman who is always messing up his business deals because she thinks he’s flirting with or having sexual relations with the women he works with.

5.STABILITY – Women often look for stability in a man. What they don’t know is that it’s their characteristics as a woman that cause a man to become stable. Most relationships are temporary, you actually know they will expire any minute.

She makes him think about a future with her.

A good woman will make you think of your goals and plans and make sure they are in alignment with what you want out of life. If a woman wants a stable man then she needs to be stable herself. That’s one of the top signs of a good woman.

6.ALLERGIC TO GOLD DIGGING – A good woman doesn’t require that you buy her expensive gifts in order to obtain or maintain her affection. She’s just as happy with sentimental gifts from a man as she would be with a gift of Louboutin shoes. It’s not all about money with her, it’s all about you and the man whom you are.

When a man finds a good woman that’s when those wedding bells start to ring.

BY FG FARRAHGRAY

Mystery Millionaire * got me feeling some kinda way* (((((Blog)))))

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Tonight I watched one of my FAVORITE shows Mystery Millionaire. (google it)

I love this show because I enjoying seeing how these women will react when they find out that the guy they’ve been seeing is actually a Millionaire. The millionaire goes on 3 dates with different women, but the one he connects the most with, he’ll ask out for a second. During these dates, he’s given a house, car and fake occupation. He has to keep up with the lie until the end of the show where he will then tell the person, who he really likes, that everything about what she knows about him is a LIE.

The show is really good. I must admit I love it. But the down side of it is that the woman always walk away “feeling some kinda way”… because while he got to “know her”…. she doesn’t know a thing about him. Everything was a lie. So now she has to regroup and ask him questions all over again, while he breaks his neck “being himself”…. gladly. Bragging and boasting about what he has, and where he’s been, who he knows.

As she begins to know more about him, she has to ask herself “will I be able to deal with him flying in and out of town every week, or wonder how many women are still attached to him?” How does he get along with his parents and siblings? We all know Millionaires cling to their friends, the ones who are publicly known. They separate themselves a distance from FAMILY… because they always “have their hands out”. These are important questions when dating a Millionaire. If they talk side ways about their family members, and PRAISE their FRIENDS… trust me…. you’ll be on his lips too and not in a positive way.

Millionaires ALWAYS feel that it PROTECTS THEM * SMH* when they go  “undercover” to find out who are for them, and who is not. That’s fake to me, and if I’m ever tested in LOVE this way, I’ll never ever in my life talk to him again. EVER. I’m to straight a person to give him the “REAL ME” while he feed me lies on a bed of shrimp…. got me messed up. I don’t play games like that. Just stop talking to me because its a wrap. His heart is “protected”…. but mines is all over the place.

Again, I LOVE the show, but while the men search to find someone who will LOVE them for them, its the women who get played in the end. Mind games, and LIES don’t mix with LOVE.

Be Blessed

LOVE is not a POWER STRUGGLE ……(((((BLOG)))))

 

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Hey

I had a wonderful last few days. Sometimes you just gotta make moves in order to feel good about yourself or a certain situation. There is nothing wrong with it either.

There’s this guy that I’ve been feeling for a long time that I get to see daily. I pay attention to consistency in a man. This person is the same every time I see him. He always have a pleasantness about him that I just love. He doesn’t even have to say much, he’s a doer. He’s one of those type of guys that enjoys to cook and have family barbecues at his house, family or a park. I always admire that in a man. When he speaks I listen, he’s so interesting, so helpful. So sweet, so honest and truthful.

These days some MEN are motivated by having MONEY, BIGGER AND “BETTER”. Some will never enjoy life in a family way, because they’re too busy either chasing MONEY…. OR/AND OOOOS AND AHHH’S. Sad part is, many of them don’t know how to LOVE. They’ve never experienced real love, because they’re so busy trying to impress people. Real love is displayed by dinners, seeing each other, walks on the beach, good mornings and good nights. Spending time taking rides together, small talk between being busy. Communication, agreements, compromise and understanding Not POWER STRUGGLING, demanding, one way conversations, side talking, and broken ” I’ll get back to you in a moment” and never do situations. Be done with those types of BUMS.Catch them on JUDGEMENT DAY and not a hour before.

I come from a family who LOVE TO LOVE on each other. WOMEN KNOW YOUR WORTH!

Be Blessed

Jealousy………… ((((((((((Blog))))))))))

Friday night my 2 sisters and I went out to dinner at Applebees…. we sat for 5 hours talking and catching up on our lives. We were having many conversations but the one that stood out the most was the fact that we’re not jealous when it comes to being in a relationship. For me I was never a jealous person until I met my daughters father. Before him I was never insecure. I knew I was pretty, had a great family, nice personality… but when I met him and having to deal with all the women. It made me a bitter person. It took me years to get over him and over the way the relationship made me feel. Over the years I met some pretty good men, that always made me feel so loved and so wonderful. I never had to deal with jealousy again.

The reason why I’m writing this is to say to my Sisters out there. Know you’re beautiful. Know that you are loved by God no matter how a man make you feel. Know that if you have to be in a relationship that makes you have to always look over your shoulders because of other women, or have to fight or go back and forth…. please don’t waste anytime getting help, or leaving that relationship. What woman in their right mind want to feel jealous and insecure of another woman? Women these days lose themselves in a marriage or in a unmarried relationship. You have to still love your life and enjoy it.

Let me say this too…. Sisters, you have to do your part in making your man feel secure. When you start trying to make him jealous, then one day down the line, it just maybe you….. who gets jealous . That’s a dangerous game to play. Find ways to entertain yourselves while he’s not around. Visit family and friends….. Don’t build your life around him…. that when he wants and needs a break, you find yourself whining and bored. Many women push themselves away from their family and friends when they get married or enter a relationship. Never do that. You never want to look up and have no one….but him. Down the line it makes him uncomfortable, and he’ll have to always find ways to entertain you. That’s not fair. Build your own life, and at the end of the day…  go home to the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou 

Sistergurl Talk *woman to woman* ((((((Blog))))))

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So, I just finished watching Kandi’s Wedding. I’m just outdone by the disrespect and the lack of common sense used. I see clearly the drama that will eventually end in divorce if Kandi don’t get a grip of her mothers behavior. It kills me to see her going through this and not have a clue to how to stop her mother for just saying whatever she wants to say. My daddy is the same way, took me forever to learn how to deal with him. I’m so glad that I learned it before I got married.

Kandi has to say: Momma, I understand that you don’t too much care for Todd. I get that. So for now on to respect how you feel, I will ask you NOT to ask me about him, and I will NOT bring up his name. Not only that, but since you feel this way, I would appreciate if you NOT discuss him with anyone else, because I would hate to HEAR that you’re mentioning his name to anyone when you’ve expressed the way you feel. I feel that if you’re not feeling a person, then their name should never come out of your mouth.

I know and understand that Kandi have hope that each time she brings up Todd’s name that her mom would eventually come around…its not going to happen unless she tries something different. Its not even important why Momma Joyce feels the way she does, what’s important is that Kandi “gets it” before Todd gets fed up. I understand that she looks at her mother as her best-friend…. I get that. But some of the things that Momma Joyce says about Todd  is disrespectful and unacceptable. If Todd at A N Y T I M E feel that its gone to far, and feels that he can’t talk to Kandi as his best-friend and his WIFE …. there is no telling where this marriage will end. A man/woman can only take so much in a relationship when they’re not being heard.

 

Kandi needs to get a grip of what’s going on here with her mom disrespecting Todd ( her husband) in the way that she does, she’s going to lose him. I’m going to say this- When a man feels the need to TALK and VENT with someone who “understands” even if it means meeting a new woman who totally can be a friend without being in his immediate circle… he will. Todd goes out of town a lot early in the marriage, while she’s in Atlanta.. and if she’s calling him “filling” him in on what’s “said” and its drama from her mom, he’s going to eventually get tired of it. At some point, he’s going to feel that he needs to “talk” with that person who loves to listen and understand. That’s how outside relationships start. Those talks are going to show him that he’s in a marriage that will always be filled with drama. If he ever decides to leave Kandi. he will NOT fight for anything monetary or”stuff” (( material things)), he will walk away with his FREEDOM AND PEACE OF MIND…… and what can beat that? My prayer is that Kandi… get it. I just love Todd for her… and I love me some Kandi as well.

 

 

 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

Gurl Talk * wedding stress* ((((((Blog))))))

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Hey!!!!

I want to Gurl Talk about Weddings. I know several good friends of mine who will be married this year and next Summer. As they plan their wedding many issues are with the Bridal Party….. but also there are many problems with GUEST.

As a person who LOVES to plan. I recommend that the Bride have someone other than herself to be in charge of the RECEPTION GUEST LIST. A good friend in boxed me tonight was in tears about this SAME topic. I wanted to cry with her, because I hear this a lot and let me say this. As the Bride, when you make up in your mind how you want YOUR WEDDING…. and what you can afford, how you want it done, how many guest you plan to invite, who are allowed and who are not….STICK WITH IT. Its your day! WHO EVA * not ever* WHO EVA don’t like it… OH WELL!

If you’re having a “no children” wedding, stick to it. No exceptions. That’s the part that bothers me, people always want to put pressure on the Bride about this policy. If the couple agree to not have children, then that’s what it means. FLAT OUT!!! THAT’S FINAL!!! When those same people who have a problem with it… go out dancing, they can’t take their kids with them. If they can’t get a baby sitter, then guess what they have to do……”sit it out”. I don’t care who you are. You wont disrespect our wedding cause you want things convenient  for you. And if they get mad… get mad ON TOP OF THEIR “MAD”… and keep it moving. I love to plan, and that’s one thing I don’t play….. people wanting exceptions to benefit them.

If a couple allow kids to their wedding, with high plate prices that’s over $30.00 per head, people will bring their kids, and the kids they’re baby sitting that weekend, that summer, that month… um ummmm NOT ON MY MONEY. *blank stare*. People don’t know how to act right. So, I say as a planner myself, its best to have a person who you trust and know will communicate everything you want, to do your RECEPTION WEDDING GUEST.

My advice for a Bride who plans to gather address and names for their wedding  reception. Is to let people know up front, NO CHILDREN- NO EXCEPTIONS. Please respect and honor this request and there will be ABSOLUTELY NO conversations pertaining to the matter. That’s to the point and very well communicated. Who ever doesn’t get that… just don’t care. Keep it moving, there is too much work to do. I live by that!

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Be Blessed!

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

My Sisters/Gurl Talk/May 21 Day Challenge Update (((((BLOG)))))

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Hey,

Its Memorial Day Weekend!!! Days like this, I miss having my own HOUSE. My favorite time is when everybody go home and we’re cleaning up the kitchen. I love that part for some reason. Then after wards I get to go sit down and “do me” until bedtime. Now today, my Sisters calling me on the 3-way asking “What we gon do for the Holiday?” I’m saying to myself laughing…. yall got the houses… yall figure it out!!! LOL LOL When I had the house all the gatherings was there, now we can use yall nice huge houses…. and I’m not cleaning up afterwards either. LOL LOL YESSSS!!! Feels good. I’mma sit there on the couch, talk my junk, and cross my legs for a change…. give Big Sister a BREAK LOL LOL LOL Sorry yall but this is really funny to me. So now we have a meeting at my sister house tomorrow at 4. Chile please… Imma go and listen to them work it out. I LOVE THEM SO MUCH THOUGH!!! WE HAVE A GOOD TIME WHEN WE GET TOGETHER.. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.. AND I CHOSE TO HAVE FUN.

Ladies we’ve got to quit frowning all the time. A man will NOT approach you with your face balled up and mouth twisted. A man who is being straight up with you, can’t stand a smart mouth either. Yes, I know we’ve been though a lot with men. I know we can take a lot. I know they can make us so mad….. but still we can’t walk around with our faces smashed up because of it. Some women loved to look like something is wrong just for the attention and to be asked “what’s wrong?”. When a man comes home from being gone all day, he want to see a smiling face, with kisses and a great day update. DSCN1619 I don’t even look at women who frown. Understand and know that Spirit can jump on you and have you frowning. Stop complaining all the time too. Ask yourself what percentage of happy stories come out of your mouth daily? You have the choice to share good stories or “Debbie Downers.”

My 18 year old Niece Ganell NELL 4 is so funny. Whenever I go over to her house, she always sit by me. I never paid it any attention until my daughter was like “ma next time we go over to Auntie Peedie house watch Nell make sure she sits by you. She said no matter where we are, she always make sure her seat is by you, and she cant stop touching you. So, I was like okay… let me start paying attention. LOL LOL When I did, I couldn’t do nothing but laugh. I said Nell, why when I come over you gotta sit next to me? She laughed and laughed * thought I didn’t know*, she said Auntie you give out GOOD ENERGY!!!! HAHAHAH WOW What a compliment from a teenager. She loves my energy. I love that gurl. Here is a photo of her.

My May 21 day Challenge……Water, Water, Water is the word for today!!!! YESSSSSSS thatgurlhecallCree aint playing with yall. I’m bout to lose this weight.This banging curvy body “covered in food” deserves BETTER. Its a wrap.. Yes its going to take a while… but LETS GET IT CREE!!!!

* photo taken tonight in my lounge gown*

 

ALRIGHT BE BLESSED

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

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