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Why did I get married?………………PT7

The bible says:

Proverbs 27 (New Living Translation)

15 A quarrelsome wife is as annoying
as constant dripping on a rainy day.
16 Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind
or trying to hold something with greased hands.

When I read that scripture first thing came to my mind was…………..how do God know that? Of course he knows that he made us. But my goodness that is so true!! LOL Im laughing cause the scripture says: Trying to stop her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or hold something with greased hands!!! Do you realize how hard that is? What is wrong with us? LOL How are we wired up so tough that its hard to stop?

I know I use to be the Queen of complaints, the Queen of arguing, the Queen of debating, the Queen of running my mouth following behind my boyfriend constantly talking, or calling him on the phone none stop until he turned the ringer off on me. What\’s up with that ladies? Why do we do that?

Well, I\’ll tell you this. If the bible warns us ahead of time and its ruining your marriage, you better read on to find a cure for it, because you can send your husband right to divorce court. I know it seems as if men are always doing something to provoke us into complaining, but its about self control. Men do not want to hear us constantly running our mouths and complaining all the time. They simply can\’t deal with it. I believe that they are not wired up for listening to all of that.

My brother always tell me, he can\’t deal with a woman with a mouth on her!!! He just can\’t do it. Take the time to sit down and talk to you husband, let him speak, and then you. Try to understand his point, don\’t yell, don\’t get all \”facial feature\” with him. If you don\’t come to a medium on the situation just go somewhere alone and regroup. Later on, I promise you things will clear up for the better.

Men, we don\’t mean to complaint so much, its just that we are really wired up something \”different\” and a lot of times when we don\’t understand, or agree, and our mouth is our weapon. We can tear some stuff up!!! LOL But it\’s not fair to you as the husband, or to your family.

Here\’s a video for ya.

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Why did I get married? …………PT6

I\’ve always said that in a relationship I can do away with a lot of things, but cheating is not one of them.

When you\’re married and have a family at home. A woman or man should never go outside of that marriage. It creates chaos and tension in the home. Being a single woman, I have seen the many effects that cheating in a relationship does. It tears down communication and trust. If the persons involved would take just a few seconds to create a mental picture of what it would be like to lose their family to cheating maybe it would stop them. To lose the home you work so hard for, the family you have, the loving wife who use to adore you, the husband who took you in his arms and told you over, and over how much he loved you would be a shame.

A lot of times people don\’t think about the consequences, they just act out on feelings. Its all cool to see old people that you use to kick it with, or people you had feelings for, but that should always remain in the past. They should never become a part of your present. This is your life, this is what you\’ve work so hard to get, don\’t lose it all just because you decided to step out of the marriage. Think about what you do, before you do it.

Look and follow this video closely, it just may save your marriage.

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Why did I get Married?………..PT5

I\’ve never been married, and I pray that one day God will bless me with a husband sent only from him.

I have several friends in my life whom I\’m Spiritually Connected with. Back in the day if we get into a debate or argument, I would just hang up the phone and that\’s the end of it. I will think about it and think about it, and call them and call them and probably wont sleep well until I make friends with them. Not because I wont apolize or they wont, but because we are connected spiritually and our souls wont rest until we come to peace with our situation. Its harder for me to move on, and for some reason I feel the need to make it right with them.

In a marriage, it should be that same way. When the wife is upset with her husband, or when the husband is upset with his wife, they shouldn\’t be able to do pretty much of anything, because they are not at peace with each other. If she leaves the house and goes to the store, if they are spiritually connected she will be thinking about him to and from. She/he will not use this time to \”go shopping\” or \”go see an old gurl/boyfriend\”, or \”call up his/her ex husband\”, or even go spend all the money that\’s in their joint account. This should be a renewal of the mind time. A time to focus on the situation, be ready to apolize, be ready to come to an medium and get home to his/her family. That\’s their time to spend with God or a close friend( if they visited one) who will tell them these same things.

I know people who were \”worldly connected\” with their spouse, and first sign of an debate or argument, they ran and slept with the people they wanted to sleep with all the time, but just didn\’t have the courage to do it when their marriage was at high times.

Being spiritually connected and worldly connected, will have you doing two different things. You need to decided after reading this, which is your marriage? Will you say after a heated debate…..Lord help me to mend this situation today, NOW LORD? Or did you take advantage of the situation and spent all the money shopping, called an ex, cursed him/her out to family and friends, call him/her names you normally wouldn\’t, blast him/her in front of the kids, did something you wouldn\’t normally do? ( The list can go on and on)

Take an inventory of your life, and make a choice to be Spiritually Connected to your spouse. You will be amazed at what God will do for your family.

Bear one another\’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Galatians 6:2 NRSV

Please……….Listen to the Love and the lyrics in this song

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Why did I get married?…….PT4

Today, this lady who works @ Marshall\’s came through my line with her husband and child. She asked me were we hiring and said that she wanted to work over nights for extra income. I guess she thought about what she wanted to do, and looked over at her husband and said something like this: Do you mind if I work over nights? She had this look on her face that she realized that she need to consult with her husband. It was done in such a loving way, she realized that she was thinking about this, without his knowledge.

Growing up, my mother use to ask my daddy all the time, do you mind if I do this, do you mind if I do that? And I would look at her as if to say………..why you always gotta ask him can you do something? I didn\’t know a thing about how marriage is suppose to go…….I was a young teen, and didn\’t any better.

I understand now, that In a marriage, you are suppose to check in with your spouse to see how they feel. To get their opinions on it, they have the right to know that things in the home is up for a change. There should never be a one sided deal in a marriage. This is where communication kicks in. When a decisions is about to be made, both parties should meet in the middle to discuss the ups and the downs of a change in their marriage. A lot of people make life decisions on their own without communicating with their spouse and this can ruin a marriage. Its simply not fair to the other party.

When she looked over at her husband, I thought it was the sweetest thing. I always say Communication is Everything!


Cree

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Why did I get married?…….. PT3

I use to be the junkiest person in the world. Yep, had \”bugs\” and everything. Never wanted to admit that I was living foul and \”messy as hell\”.

Good bye to those days. Thank you Jesus. If you find my house junkie, you must have visit me sick. Its funny to because my friends come over and I\’ll be like, my house is junkie, let me clean up right quick, and they would be like…………gurl you are crazy, this house is not junkie!!!!

It\’s hard for me to admit that I\’m not how I use to be. I use to hear, why are you so junkie Lacrease? It feels so good that I don\’t have to run and clean up whenever there\’s a knock at the door. I can answer it…………and then entertain my guest.

Men love a home thats nice and clean. They dread coming home to a house that smells, and dinner is not cooking. I hear debates about this issue all the time from both sides. I believe that cleaning the house should be both the husband and the wife duties. When they come home from work they are both tired, whats wrong with coming up with a plan and cleaning the house together? I personally feel that it can bring them closer because they are cleaning as a team.

I have a home office, and everything you can name, is in there………now ask me if that area is junkie?

Yep! Cause its mines and its off limits to the public!

God Bless

Cree

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Why did I get married?……….PT2

At dinner over to a friend\’s house, \”baby would you make me a plate?\” Me………………..thinking to myself, what\’s wrong with your hands?

Then God quickly reminded me of the times when I was single, the times when I prayed and asked him for a husband, the times when I begged him to send someone into my life, the times when the relationships before this beautiful man was nothing …………..worth mentioning. He bought to my remembrance that….

I\’m married now.

And my answer…

Yes, baby sure, I\’ll make you a plate, what would you like? Anything to drink?

I ……….. look at his face, he winks, I smile, he\’s happy, I\’m glad……………………… God spoke to me.

This is peace.

This is compromise.

This is giving.

This is sharing.

This is marriage.

This is LOVE

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Why did I get married?….. Pt1

Hey there,

Work was good today. Thank you Jesus. Since Neisha has been gone seems like things are coming along for me as far as missing her, we call each other everyday, she calls me before she goes to bed every night, she comes home on Thursday\’s and stay till Sunday. What more can you ask for? Which leads me to this:

I want to love again. I\’m excited about Tyler Perry\’s new movie \”Why did I get married\”? And every day leading up to it, I think more and more about marriage. Well, let me back up. I think more and more about meeting and dating someone. I haven\’t been looking \”cute\” lately, more so just stuck between Neisha being gone, hanging out more with my gurls, and on this computer all night. I am really starting to think more and more about meeting someone special.

Me and my brother was on the phone talking the other day, and he was telling me about this gurl he was dating, and how she loves to start arguments. The last time she did that, he grabbed his keys and walked out. I couldn\’t help but think about how I use to be. But you know, I\’m at that time in my life where I want to be happy. I want to love. I sit up and think about me with a guy whose face I can\’t see, dancing at our wedding to our first song. In this \” mental video\” that\’s playing in my head, I see myself looking up at him, and I\’m looking so pretty. OMG! He\’s looking down at me, as if we are the only ones in the room. I\’m just stuck on that scene. LOL I can\’ even hear the song……… \”Bed\” by J-Holiday. I love this song, its so romantic, its so \”grown folks\”. That song is not for kids, and Imma choke a kid if I see them singing my first wedding song. LOL This is for grown folks, we finally got us some music.

Back to my \”mental video\”.

Even though I want to be married someday, I\’m not willing to say \”I do\” if he is not the one for me to be with forever. God will have to tell him and me both that its meant to be. I don\’t think that a man should do things without his wife knowing about it, same for the wife. When a man is married they are a team. You know what\’s sexy to me? I mean sexy??? When a man says: my wife will kill me if I do this or that without her permission. I love it.That shows that he respects his wife enough to let her in on his decisions. She should/better do the same for him. My desire is to stay on the same page as my husband. I want us to always be on the same page. If we don\’t agree with something that\’s fine, we are not going to always agree, and I understand that, but I want to always come to a medium. That\’s what I want in my marriage. When I see myself slipping, I want God to pick me up and put me back on track with my husband.

I want to be so in tuned with my husband, that if we are out somewhere, and I\’m on one side of the room, and he\’s on another, talking, I want to be able to look into his eyes without him saying a word to me, and know how his last conversation went, I want to be able to tell when he\’s ready to go, when he\’s tired, or aint feeling the people he\’s chatting with. And I want him to be able to do the same for me. If you are so into yourself and what you are doing, you will miss that Love. I like to look into the eyes, it says so much.

I\’m gone to bed, I will continue off tomorrow. Here is a song that\’s playing right now in my heart.

Cree

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