Being OUTSPOKEN… A WRONG AND RIGHT TIME/BLOG

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I was talking to a friend last night, and our phone call conversation trigger several thoughts about being OUTSPOKEN at the wrong time. This is a subject that’s very serious to me, and I speak in COMPLETE BOLDNESS when it comes to it. I touched on this in the last blog entry…. but this one.. I’m going in.

Everyone who knows me know that when you call me, email, text, or we talk FACE TO FACE…I’m going to give you the real. I don’t add sugar to my conversations, ONLY salt.  I’m not going to short cut you, or baby you. I can feel when you’re leaving something out, and I can tell when you’re adding to it.I ask a lot of QUESTIONS… you already know. Many people come to me for advice because I can see the bigger picture. I use Godly Wisdom, and not worldly tickles. I’m not her. Period.

If I feel you’re holding back the complete truth, I’m going to shut down the conversation completely, and keep it moving. I will NOT hold a conversation with anyone, who doesn’t tell the full story…. it’s a waste of my time. I will never again hold 1 and 2 hour conversations just to listen * especially if the story is stupid and doesn’t need to be told* just because you want me to listen and not comment. FIND ANOTHER FRIEND FOR THAT. FIND A FRIEND WHO WILL LISTEN ONLY.. IM NOT HER…… AT ALL… PERIOD. I don’t have time to say.. “yeah, um um, I understand, right, yes, okay… all through the conversation without any input. I refuse to spend that kinda time on those conversations…. phone a friend who will. I’m not mad or anything… I’m just not that friend. PERIOD.

Listen.. as Christians we have to learn when to speak and when to fall back. When to stay in our own lanes, and when its okay to share lanes. Its very ignorant to be “OUTSPOKEN” on the wrong things. Its very ignorant to tell a friend… those shoes are ugly, where you get that ugly red hat from? Why you have on those pants, the style is ugly. When are you going to comb your hair? What time are you getting in the tub… I smell something? But then…. when its time to pay a bill and negotiate with someone.. you can’t do it. When you need to tell someone to stay out of your room, you can’t tell them. When you need a neighbor to turn down their music you can’t knock on their door. When you need to get pass someone and you can’t say excuse me, you rather wait until they notice you’re standing there. When you need to ask for a loan and SCARED of hearing NO.. or I DON’T HAVE IT. Instead of being able to ask these things… the excuse is ALWAYS…. “I don’t want nobody telling me NO… and If I say it, its going to come out wrong”. What is that? That’s stupid as hell to me. You can open your mouth and put your 2 cents into everybody else’s conversation, but don’t know how to work your own lane.

You can tell someone what their job is, and what they need to do, when they need to do it and why…. but you can’t knock on a neighbors door and tell them the’re too loud watching a Football game? That &&&& is retarded to me!!  You rather tell a friend their shoes are ugly…. IN THE NAME OF BEING HONEST. * because/whether they asked.. OR NOT”… but wont use that same honestly…. to knock on someone’s door and ask them to turn down their TV because its too loud.

As Christians.. we have to learn how to talk to people. The only reason why you feel its not going to “come out right” is because you catch attitude from people when they get mad at you for being in their business when you wasn’t invited. So now that its your business and its time for you to be a Boss, you can’t. We have to learn how to look at people in a non confrontational manner when speaking to them about an issue that would other wise cause conflict. We have to learn how to use voice control and direct eye contact with others. We have to usher in a Spirit of Peace when we speak. We have to go to God and ask him to calm us down before we ask a question or deliver a message to someone who may not take it well. This is a part of growing up, getting off milk and eating meat. You cannot be afraid “it won’t come out right”.. but at the same time… claiming how outspoken you are. Stop speaking when not asked., stop being so opinionated on things that doesn’t matter. Learn to pay attention to how things come on * a friend told me this*…. many times when you need an answer or something done, you need to learn how not to offend, so that the person can get it. That’s the whole key….. for them to GET IT. Stop feeling as if you have to say everything since its true….. when its not your story, important or necessary to say. Ask God to calm your storm before going to someone if you feel its going to lead to an argument or debate. Take YOU out of the situation and get things done people!!!

I know “outspoken” people who will tell you how dirty your car is….. but scared to ask the cashier for more ketchup because 1 isn’t enough. SMH!!!! 

If we all told what we know of one another, there would not be four friends in the world- Blaise Pascal

Be Blessed!

Dear Husband/BLOG

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Dear Husband,

Where are you? LOL Its getting hard holding it down baby. I’m meeting a lot of guys… but nothing serious.. So I guess… you’re still in the running. LOL You know I remember years ago asking God for you, but I clearly see that I wasn’t ready.  I’m learning so much about myself…. its crazy. I would have drove you nuts!

I guess the hardest part about everything is being/staying celibate. I’m very clear and upfront about it with men that I meet. I get tired of the “why” and the “when”. Then I feel they hate that decision, so they stay in the picture longer hoping I would give in. Not gon happen. My personal conclusion about it, turns into a challenge for them. And they KNOW.. that I’m serious. What they love about me is that I’m the kind of woman they want, but none want to go the distance with me, because they know I’M NOT THE ONE FOR THEM.  A man knows!!!

Today for dinner I made some Collard Greens, Fried Chicken and Corn Bread.. with a Pepsi and strawberry short cake for dessert. Yesss.. it was good too. Well, I’m closing for now, have to do some brainstorming for my gathering.

Until we meet… Be Blessed!

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He Had All the CLUES of a …… (((((BLOG)))))

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Hey,

Yall know I always have a story to tell. LOL Sometimes I feel that words are on my forehead saying… I’m a writer come talk to me and give me a great story to share with my bloggers. LOL

As I was sitting along the beautiful River Walk on the Detroit River a few days ago, this guy who was running decided to come and sit by me to get to know me better. I promise being a Christian is hard work… people mistaken that  sweet  peaceful calm Spirit as an opportunity to “get over” on you. That bothers me a lot, because I feel that I have to “go there” with people… when really it shouldn’t  even be that way. I told him my name was Lisa… and I’m so glad I did. It was something about him, that I knew if I listen more than 15 minutes… it would show me who he was.. AND IT DID.

He told me that he was carrying around his “credentials”  in this album because he was trying to gain employment and eventually  move to Canada. That was a “clue” to who he was… and I’m calling it Clue # 1. When I asked him where he stayed, he said he stay with a “room mate” ((a guy)) that he met at Starbucks after he and his gurlfriend broke up and didn’t have a place to go. That was Clue #2. That told me that he was sorta  like a “drifter” a person who tries to get in where he fit in. Any sign of an opportunity to get ahead at YOUR expense he will. It told me that he was purposely looking for people to meet. He had some shades…. and anytime he wanted to know about me, the shades were off, but when it came down to him sharing his story, he put them on. Clue #3. When he told me that he was 28… I was the happiest person on that day… it gave me an opportunity to “wrap up” the conversation and for him to BEAT IT. Told him, my daughter was 28 * she’ll be Sep 3* and that I had nothing in common with men HER age. Instead of him exiting from my “straight to the point, direct eye contact, bass in my voice, turned my head and made no eye contact with him after wards”, he still didn’t leave. So, I said to myself okay….. he’s up to something.

As I watched my phone because I had to be someplace at a certain time, he kept making small talk. When he told me how close he stayed and the landmark near it… he said it the WRONG WAY. He said that he stayed near Belle Isle. Clue # 4.  If you grew up and was raised in Detroit.. you pronounce it like this…. *Bell Owl*… AND NO OTHER WAY. LOL LOL I knew that doe doe bird was from another city. I went right in after he said it wrong……. “Where are you from”? LOL He looked at me as if I was the smartest woman HE HAD EVER MET IN HIS LIFE. LOL And said Houston. After about an hour.. he was still sitting there. I didn’t say a word.. I enjoyed the silence.

 Just then a couple came and sat on the bench next to ours (((LOL after all those that were there)))… oooweeee.. why they do that? This guy was SOOOO irritated about that. I heard God loud and clear when he said…. you see that? I said yesss Lord…. I’m paying attention. Clue # 5. Just then God said…. he’s going to ask you to take him home.  I kept saying  to God, I knew this guy is up to no good. I sat there mentally preparing his VERBAL DEATH. I looked at my phone and it said…. 5:04… I  said… OH WELL… LET ME GO. He said.. oooo ummmm umm oooooouumm which way are you going? I smiled in my mind because he was fulfilling just what God told me. I pointed in the direction of where I was going. He said.. do you mind if you can drop me off. I LOOKED AT HIM… I said.. I, WILL NEVER—— EVER—— IN MY LIFE—— let a stranger get in the car of my personal space. I said I don’t know you. Told him, my daughter would have a fit if she THOUGHT I took a stranger home. He made me so heated, I said I wouldn’t even let a stranger WALK ME TO MY CAR.  Then he said… no.. I’m not like that, here are my “credentials”  right here,* showing me his album of his ID and important papers. I said I DON’T WANT TO SEE THAT.. DON’T MATTER WHO YOU ARE, I’M NOT TAKING YOU ANYWHERE. I made it PERSONAL..  Just then I jumped up REAL FAST… catching him off guard, told him I was leaving…… and left! He didn’t know which car was mines * lol*,  it was actually parked directly behind where we were sitting. He wanted to know so badly which one it was. As I walked off…. I walked the whole circle to get to my car…. NO THIS CLOWN didn’t get out of his seat.. and started doing push ups on the side walk just to have full view of where I was walking. It was so funny watching him looking around for me, by the time he spotted me, I was popping the locks on the car. LOL

I know for a fact by the way he was irritated that couple sat near us, had they not came, he would have harassed me  and tried to convince me that he was a good person. He got me messed up… I watch too many killer shows for me not to know the signs of my last days on earth….messing around with him. He’s looking for another person to link up with so that he can free load and create another opportunity for himself to advance. This VIRGO is way to smart for that. If people knew what I KNEW…. they would stop TODAY.

Let me say this. People will show you who they are be them FAKE OR GOOD PEOPLE…. just pay attention to the Spirit they usher in with them. The Spirit is like a fragrance of cologne or perfume. Pay attention people. Listen.. don’t be so quick to want a friendship, that you miss the person you’re befriending. Give them time, honey, they will show you all day the condiments they wear.

Be Blessed!

Sitting here thinking about MEN… (((((BLOG))))))

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I guess I’ve been in a writing mood lately.

Just sitting here thinking . I hate when men think they know me just because I show myself “friendly” smile with them and laugh. Maybe buy them water, or a fruit or something, (((because of the weather or just being nice))) then I keep it moving. Women these days have made it so easy for a man to come along and tell them anything. So when they meet me…. they feel its the same way. They feel that I’m giving them a hard time when I don’t show interest  just because I bought them something. This is how I am. You can’t make me laugh, tell me how many properties you have, and where you work to make me do flips over you. The more I make it clear that I DON’T WANT TO MARRY YOU, I DON’T SEE YOU IN A SEXUAL WAY, I DON’T WANT ANYMORE KIDS, and I DON’T SEE YOU THAT WAY…. the more they feel that they have to try harder. It becomes a challenge to some men. They come up with different “tricks” and conversation to try their best to get you on the page that they’re on. Just let me be friendly. I don’t want anything from you. All it does it turn me off. And when La’Crease Walker gets turned off….. I will NO LONGER look at you with that smile in my eyes. And to be honest, most likely… I’ll be praying not to IGNORE you. Just fall back.

I’ve learned in the past about myself is that when I gave my body to men, they had the POWER. Not in a bad way, but I became submissive, and I don’t want to be that way with just a boyfriend.. I want to be that way with my HUSBAND. I have so much POWER when I don’t give my body to a man. Set the conversations and the atmosphere SISTERS. No man have POWER over my mind or my body as long as I say NO….

Women.. know your worth. Anytime a man whats your body…. there must be some GOOD to it. Put it on ice, save it, work on your mind and your life. A man can have any conversation with you, lie, be honest and lie again, but they haven’t gained NOT ONE SINGLE THING FROM YOU.

Be Blessed

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

Oprah’s …The Life You Want Weekend”…. I won’t be there From the Desk of Cree

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I’m so disappointed!

I read that Oprah was coming to the Detroit area with guess, to speak at The Palace of Auburn Hills Friday Sep 12 and 13th. I didn’t know all the details of Oprah’s “The Life You Want Weekend”  but I WAS READY!!!

I went on line and BOOKED my hotel! I’ve stayed at this hotel at least a dozen times when I go to a Piston game and don’t feel like driving home. I knew that I had to book this hotel RIGHT AWAY before tickets went on sale. I booked for Thursday-Saturday. I was so excited and happy. I didn’t care who was going with me, if I had to go alone… that was fine with me.

Later on that day, I checked my email and put in the password to purchase tickets early before they went on sale to the general public. What happened next…. I THOUGHT MY FAMILY WAS GOING TO FIND ME DEAD IN MY APARTMENT FROM SHOCK!

Once to the ticket page, you can roll over your mouse to see the TICKET PRICES. And not only that… you get to see WHERE YOU’LL BE SITTING FOR THE PRICE . Now, I’m thinking okay, this is a 2 day event. tickets should be no more than $100.00. I paid $238.00 to see Maxwell, Jill Scott, Chrisette Michele, Robin Thick and comedian Guy Torey  … AND I’M STILL ON “CONCERT PUNISHMENT” FOR DOING THAT. As I rolled over the mouse, I was so SHOCKED AND SO OUTDONE by what I was seeing concerning TICKET PRICES.

Ticket prices: $99.00 to sit AT THE TIP TOP AT THE ROOF OF THE PALACE $199.00 , $299.00, $599.00 $999.00., as you make your way to the floor. LOOK AT THESE TICKET PRICES!!!! ARE YOU SERIOUS?

I sat at my desk and stared at the screen. There is NO WAY in the world… would I pay $199.00 to sit at THE TOP OF THE PALACE/ARENA TO SEE A N Y B O D Y!!! Even if I had $1000.00 I wouldn’t pay that to be in YOUR FACE!!!I’m still trying to figure out, what team of people would agree that these prices are ACCEPTABLE? Why aren’t tickets GENERAL ADMISSION… FIRST COME FIRST SERVED. No one can EVER explain to me why these tickets are so high. I guess this will turn in a conversation of “WHERE ARE YOU SITTING”? I am so pissed off about the thought process that went into this planning.
if you have money, or COME UP with the money to pay $1000.00 and $599.00 you receive a gift pack along with other goodies and A PHOTO. I’m guessing the money is in the photo and the “in your face” experience. But the people like me…. who really WANT to hear this word, HAVE TO SIT AT THE TOP OF THE PALACE with the heat, dust and screens everywhere to get the same experience as the others. Sorta reminds me of the MENTALITY OF FLYING FIRST CLASS: You pay more, get to sit in larger seats, get all of these extra AMENITIES, BUT IF THE PLANE GO DOWN. THEY ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL GO DOWN…… am I the only one who figured that out? *blank stare* *

 

I can hear some people saying right now.. ((((((wow))))))… .well if you want to “LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT” then you would do what you have to do to BE THERE. Or, if you want to ” LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT”… you shouldn’t put a dollar amount on your success. Well guess what? When Joyce Meyer, Creflo Dollar, or TD Jakes come to town, they don’t charge for their conferences. And they sure don’t charge by where you sit to see and hear them. For free conferences like those, that’s when you show your appreciation and you give offerings.

I’m really disappointed in Oprah this time. I was really looking forward to seeing her on this tour, but too bad I can’t afford to pay the high ticket price. I have to cancel my hotel reservation. That’s okay… ILL SEE HER ON JUDGEMENT DAY….FOR FREE

 

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

Fun Quizzes ….Crees Blog Entry

What Should Your College Major Actually Be?

  1. You got: Women’s Studies

    You’re the kind of person who would call someone out for cutting the line at Starbucks. You believe in fairness and you live for justice. You never make decisions before carefully considering every side of an argument. If everyone thought more like you, the world would be a much better place. ROAR

Want to try yours?

http://www.buzzfeed.com/mattbellassai/what-should-your-college-major-actually-be

What Career Should You Actually Have?

  1. You got: Professor

    You are a thinker, in constant search of knowledge and answers to life’s most illusive questions. You love to analyze everything, testing out theories and pushing mental boundaries. Basically you’re an Einstein, but then again you probably already knew that.

What Is Your Inner Potato?

  1. You got: Home Fries

    Congratulations! You’re home fries. You’re savory and you keep things real. You’re such a good comfort food, you are basically your own tradition. That’s right, home fry.

Which One Of Jesus’s Disciples Are You?

  1. You got: Saint Simon

    Outgoing, outspoken and passionate, you’re never afraid to speak up when you feel strongly about something. You have a bit of an obsessive personality, but it’s something that your friends love about you. You know what you want and you’re not afraid to go after it with everything you have.

Congratulations
You use your brain equally.

rules

language

strategy

details

rationality

logic

Gehirn

Short Term Goals……………………Crees Blog Entry

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Ever since the end of Dec 2013, I’ve been making chances in my life.. that some people just can’t seem to get with… OH WELL. This train is moving.
 
 
Already I am seeing changes. Someone told me once, we know what we need to do to change, the problem comes in with doing it. And boy is this the truth. But I’m so proud of myself for really saying ” Okay La’Crease, this is your year”. Not only that… but I’m doing it.
 
 
Bishop TD Jakes is doing a 4 weeks series on Transformation… and its FIYAH. I know I should be at my own Church on Sunday mornings, but I’m addicted to his teachings. He speaks to me. Not only that, but he speaks to what’s going on in my life at this time. Today was week 2, and if you want you can catch it on his website. I have notes, and homework… YES HOMEWORK.
 
 
Here are TO ME the most important of my notes
  • write- the vision
  • build – according to patterns
  • invest- in what is truly you, to what I am about
 
 
Bishop asks…. What turns you on? He says Urges are temporary impulses, it makes withdraws and NOT deposits….. Instincts makes deposits * I LOVE THIS PART*
 
 
HOMEWORK- What is the will of God concerning me? Who am I? What is my truth? What makes me happy? What makes me alive?
I finally know my answers. Someone ask me these same questions, and I really didn’t know. But I do now. So I’m happy.
 
 
In other news. I L O V E POP.. And I know for a fact I could put away a 20 ounce plus a day. Around the 28th of Dec.. I made a decision to cut the pop out. Since I know this is a process. I have decided to only drink it 3 times a MONTH * trust me this is a small number compared to what I’m use too* I get to chose the occasion. So far this month I have had one drink of pop and I let it get very watery…that’s also a plus for me. I love strong pop. Well anyway…I ask my daughter how is it that she gets so much done, and stay so Focused. She said mommy I write down short term goals. She said I do this with everything in my life. I write short term goals, and long term goals, and she says she focus on doing them.
 
 
Now, I’m the kind of person who can plan a Women’s retreat for 2015 AND DO IT.. I CAN PLAN to have movie day, dinner, concert and DO IT. I can sit here and plan my homeless dinner out for the next 2 years, menu and all…. AND DO IT. I’m a GREAT PLANNER. If I tell you I can’t do something, trust me.. I really can’t. But if I agree to do something because I know I can… then its a done deal. So, after talking to Nesha about that. I went home, came up with a 6 month weight loss plan and how much I plan to lose in a month, and what I plan to do as far as making it happen. It was a done deal in my mind. See, that’s the thing about me… I NEVER FOCUS ON MYSELF, ALWAYS ON OTHERS. And even though its ALWAYS, ALWAYS ALWAYS SPIRITUAL with them… still… its NEVER about ME.
 
 
When I started cutting down on my eating, walking in my building, drinking water, and NOT POP….I am 2 pounds away from my goal weight for JANUARY and its only the 13th. My goal weight is 9 lbs. I am so proud of myself. I’m almost embarrassed that I don’t set short goals…. I’m always going for the “LONG TERM GOALS”. IM EXCELLENT AT them… never even thought about short term goals.
 
 
July 1, 2014.. I’m giving myself a photo shoot….I can’t wait!!!
 
 
Be Blessed
 
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy