Month: July 2010

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A RE~post from January 12, 2006

8 “Will a man rob God? Yet you rob me.
      ”But you ask, ‘How do we rob you?’
      ”In tithes and offerings. 9 You are under a curse—the whole nation of you—because you are robbing me. 10 Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.

 Malachi 3 (New International Version)
 
I hear people saying all the time “after I paid my tithes this or that” and I’d say to myself man that’s what I need to be doing. I’m tired of giving God “what’s left” after paying my bills.
 
Well, the first of the month rolled around, and guess what? Something came up. I had to pay a speeding ticket I had gotten back in Oct. The Sec of State sent me a letter saying that my license was suspended as of Jan 5, 2006. I was shocked, but in order for my licenses to be reinstated I had to pay $242.40. When I received that mail it was Jan 7, 2006. I was driving around with suspended licenses.
 
That following day by it being on my mind so tough. I had to go and pay it. I got up, called my job and told them that I was going to be late because I had business to take care of. I went paid my  ticket and extra fees and my licenses was reinstated.
 
Later on I started thinking about how I didn’t have any money left to tithe. For some reason I didn’t feel bad because “something had came up………God will understand.” So I dismissed it, and promised to start off fresh the following month in Feb 2006.
 
Well, Feb (2006) rolled around I had gotten my check and was checking off all the things that I had to do. For tithing I had down $150.00 to make up for January and part of Feb. After I finished checking off things, and looking at my money. I crossed out the 1 and decided that I was going to give God $50.00. Yep, sure did. I had done everything on the list and that was my final decision. God gets $50.00.
 
The very next day as my check sheet was sitting in front of me, I had on my coat about to go to work. My close friend Shaun called me from Chicago. She is like one of my best friends. She lived here in Detroit 4 years ago, for 14 years. She called me and  her voice sound different. First thing out of her mouth was Lacrease what are you doing? And I said about to go to work I have my coat on and everything. She said I am too, she said God told me to call you, she said I didn’t want to do it, because I don’t understand, but he keep getting on me about it.
 
I said okay Shaun what is it……………………. tell me. She said God said that money you are supposed to give to him, she said do it. I said HUH? I knew instantly what she was talking about.But I wanted her to keep going, cause I couldnt believe what I was hearing. She said God said  try him. She said it don’t make sense to me, because this message is for you, She said Im just telling you what he told me to tell you. He said tell her to give it to me. I stood there frozen on the phone, cause I knew what she was talking about. I neverrrrrrrr told her about my list, or even that there was a list. That’s something I do every week. We neverrrrr talked about my tithes, offerings or anything. That’s how I knew it was God telling her that.
 
He knew that I had scratched him down to $50.00 instead of $150.00. SHE NEVERRRRRRR KNEW. She said I don’t even want to know what he is talking about, she said and I have to go to work, and I will talk to you later. I hung up the phone and wanted to shake out of my coat. But I had to laugh cause God knows how to reach me and through the right people.
 
God didn’t have to tell me anything else. I grabbed $150.00 and I paid my tithes. I sent them to my Church that SAME DAY.
 
Not only did I pay my tithes but I sent an offering with it.   That couldn’t wait until Sunday. Cause my thing is you have to know it was God, she didn’t know anything about that. I dont even want to know my penalty of ignoring that. I was obedient quick fast and in a serious hurry.
 
Next week its pay day again. I know the enemy is going to come at me with something else to try to keep me from doing what’s right. Im praying (pray with me) that I continue to do what is right. I will keep you all updated.
 
Your Sister in Christ
Lacrease
 
 
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
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“Body and Soul”

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 I had a blessed day at work. Thank you Jesus for waking me up, and for going before me to be a blessing to others. Today is one of my quiet days. I know everyone has them. Sometimes you just want to sit and be to yourself. And today is one of those days.

 

Yesterday one of my Raisingurls♥ sent me a message on Facebook because she wanted to talk to me about something. I told her to call me ( she was in my group until her mother moved to Georgia last year and got married :). She was telling me that since she’s going to the 10th grade this fall, that boys are putting pressure on her to give up her virginity. ( WTH?) I wanted to jump right in, but I listened to the whole story first ( whew it was killing me). She said that mostly all the gurls there are having sex and its bothering her that they are putting pressure on her. I said look….. anytime somebody want … what YOU have and can’t have for themselves……….. ask yourself… DO I HAVE SOMETHING OF VALUE?  I said , don’t ever let anyone put pressure on you about whats yours!!! I told her that sex was for MARRIED ADULTS. Sex is not for teenagers, or singles. I asked her……. okay so suppose you do give yourself up under pressure. So, what, are you suppose to  announce to the SCHOOL that you’re no longer a VIRGIN?  And you become one of them now? I said now does that make sense to you? I asked her why would you have sex with a boy, ( which means you no longer have bragging rights) get in trouble with your mother, ( she don’t play) and have this name on you, that goes around and around the school? I said boo, there are 2 ways to do things in this world. God’s way, or the worlds way. There are NO other choices. NONE!!! I said the world way is to have Sex before marriage, and God’s way is to wait until you’re married. I told her that I was going to send her Scriptures to her FB account ( I did) to read, Plus, a few sentences to tell people who try to put pressure on her. I said , now look, when you hang up from me, you will have those 2 choices. And it’s up to you to decide. I told her God gives us free will, now that you know…… you shouldnt have trouble deciding whats right. Also there are consequences for NOT waiting……….. know that!! I believe she got it. 🙂  It trips me out what these kids go through just being kids/teens. When I was her age, I didn’t care what the next person was doing, if La’Crease didn’t like it, she wasnt doing it. :^ I was a virgin until I was raped, and to hear that pressure is being put on someone because they want to wait is terrible. I wish I could talk to those boys. My prayer is that she got it.

 

 

Today I was remembering clear as day, when that lady came through my line and told me that I was running from my Ministry. Then I got to thinking about how many ppl I put off because they want/need to speak to me. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, my phone ring OFF THE HOOK, ppl knocking on my door, the kids in the neighborhood loves me and want to talk my ears off ( LOL), so many emails, customers, personal friends calling and coming to town. FB page off the hook, DM’s on Twitter. Whew!! Sometimes I shut down. I won’t answer my phone, door, and  will ignore emails. But see God showed me it’s because I never sat down to put things in its place. I need order in my life. I need to plan more ( I’m good at this), so when things sometimes surprise me and catch me off guard….. I’m not crazy. For example: when I’m done writing this entry, I’m going to read my bible ( read it daily) and yesterday I didn’t read it. So I have 2 days to catch up on ( reading the bible daily for one year) http://www.oneyearbibleonline.com/july.asp?version=72&startmmdd=0101  reading. I need to put aside time for Ministering to ppl, and to not get to personal, but to keep it moving. I understand that I can’t keep running and not answering the phone, and not answering the door, and not returning emails. It’s not so bad either. Because I understand that God is using me, my wisdom, my voice, because he knows I’m not afraid and will do it. I just had to quit running and understand the calling. Its time-consuming too. I always wondered why do I have so much peace in my home. I hear ppl going through this and that, and I would say wow, that never happened to me ( not saying it can’t) but there’s a lot of peace around me. Issues come, I go to God, leave it there, and let it go. Sometimes, they are hard to hand over to him ( whew), I try to figure it out on my own. It never work because it wears me out!!! LOL  I’ll post tomorrow.

 

After that for 30 days, only Scriptures.

 

Cree

 

 

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There’s more

 Thank you Jesus for another day!!! Lord, Thank you for always listening to me. You know I’m in deep thought all the time. Goodness. When am I going to just learn to relax? LOL Lord, who else can deal with me other than you? Make sure you give my husband a pep talk about me, cause I know I can be a handful. I’m sooooo much fun tho, can’t stay upset long either!!

 

I still feel in my heart there is more God want me to know. I’m not feeling complete like I need too. There is more for me to know, and I need and want to know what it is. I still need to “Seek his face”. And I’m not resting like I should because there is more. I’m going back to him, to find out more. Thats all I’m going to say about that for now. But, I will say…..there is more. I cant stop thinking about what all those people came to me and said……… Seek his face!

 

 My Sistergurl group is growing. We are having a good time getting to know each other and soon we will all meet. The group is private so I know 95% of them. I have chosen 3 ladies to kinda hold “my baby” down for a minute. I’ll be in and out daily, but for the most part….. I gotta see what else my daddy talking about. I gotta know. I’m not going to hold you all with my ramblings, I’m closing for now. Got lots to share on another day.

 

Take care!!

Cree

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Will me and my dad ever get along?

Good Afternoon!!

  

 I slept upstairs for the first time in years. It’s so pretty up there and I never sleep there at all. I’m a couch gurl, ( until I’m married). Thank you Lord for waking me up and starting me on my way.

 

 

 This morning I got up and went to the Detroit River, for my morning with my daddy ( God). I grabbed  CD’s and other things and I had a good time again. I dunno what I’m going to do in the winter time. LOL But anyway, I had a wonderful time. I sat and watched a squirrel eat some french fries that was in the garbage.LOL I have video footage for you all.

 

 

 

 

 

 I came home and my dad was calling. Still talking to me as if I live in his home, and  still a kid. Since he and my mom separated he feels that we should be at this house everyday, bringing him food, cleaning his house,bringing him Liquor, and waiting on him hand and foot. My dad made my life miserable growing up. I let that bother me for years and years.I’m so over him now!!! I was the kinda kid that didn’t require all that fussing with smacking in the face, hollering at, because I get things even if I have to be left alone for a coupla hours. Now, I know why he “picked” on me so much. I saw how he manipulated my mother, me, his own sisters and brothers,my siblings, everyone. I was the first to see it, and since we were allowed to express ourselves without being disrespectful. I use to always ask him the questions that would force him to mirror himself, AND HE HATED IT!

 

 

  When he first said Hello …… I could tell what kinda mood he was in…. I said hey daddy. He said why you didn’t tell Neisha to call me when she got in from Ohio on Sunday? My first thought was……….okay he’s in one of his arguing moods. So, me being nice, trying with all my might, not to make my voice  sound Non-confrontational. He press the issue, and I say well daddy she got home late, he said “So what you didn’t tell her!” Now, I’m looking at the phone like……….are you for real? Once he sees me quiet, he goes elsewhere. He said, I need somebody to come ova here and clean my house up. I said daddy! You had a house keeper that was cleaning up your house for you and getting paid by the state. You told her that you wanted half of the money ( that’s how he is) and she told you BYE! I said daddy you can’t do that. I said why do you feel that you should get half when you are the first to claim that your back hurts, and you can’t hardly walk? I’m saying all this in a nice tone, trying to get him to listen to what I’m saying. I say daddy, your apartment shouldnt be as messy as it is, you’re the only one living there. All you have to do is after you finish eating, take your plate, cup, fork/spoon and wash it out. Then he says” I CANT DO THAT, IM TOO WEAK ( aint nothing wrong with him, he’s so use to us running over and do it for him) I CANT STAND THERE AND WASH NO DAYUM DISHES!! You hollering that same s*** na and peedie ( my sisters ) told me. I said daddy, you can’t get no less than one person living in your apartment. I said daddy, okay, since you said you can’t do it ( and the doctor never diagnosed him as cant do anything) pray and ask God for strength to help you to wash the one dish, pots, fork/spoon, cup. Then he gon SCREAM “GOT DAMMIT DIDNT I TELL YOU I COULDNT DO IT? I said daddy, I know you can’t ( yes he can) but when you ask God you wont be using your own strength, you’ll be using God’s. Then he gon say…. “WELL WHY THE CRIPPLE PEOPLE DON’T ASK GOD FOR HELP?…… I said to myself………..that’s it. I can’t mess with him. He will cause me to sin. Just then his line beeped ( YES!!!!) and he said imma call you back. Then he calls back and tries to nut up on me. I’m telling you, I love my daddy, but he’s too much for me. Last week, he called me asking,…”What you cook”? I said nothing today, Neisha is gone (OHIO) and its”go for what you know” day. Then he says… Well every time I call my 4 kids they aint neva cooking, yall lazy!!! When I was growing up my grandmother cooked everyday. I said okay daddy….. that’s cool. But our kids are all grown except Ganell and she’s a Cook herself, she’s 16 years old. We don’t have babies in our family. Then he says “I DONT GIVE A DAYUM, YALL JUST LAZY, YALL DONT NEVER COOK, THAT DONT MAKE NO DAYUM SENSE.” Something in my mind just wanna snap, cause I had to deal with this until I moved out at 22, and then still he would call me and  “terrorize” me with things he knew I needed him to help me with. Me, still being nice and respectable……..says to him, “Well daddy is it that you want someone to bring you a plate? He  says YEA, I MEAN ……DAYUM………. yall don’t neva cook!!! I say, well why didn’t you just say that in the first place, instead of dogging us out because all of our kids are grown and we HAVE CHOICES to cook or not to cook? . When he gets mad at me, he says. “WHEN I DIE, DONT COME TO MY FUNERAL” I just shake my head and be like…….. okay daddy…. talk to you later. I’m use to all of that. I made a vow to myself I would love my baby, and treat her with respect. What I went through with him, taught me good!!! I raised Neisha totally different from how he treated me. I hate that I can come from a morning visit with God, and come home to a phone call and throw off my whole day. I hate when he has that kinda power. Being in his presence …..is so hard for me sometimes.Then he wants to know why I’m the only child of his that hardly comes over. He wont quit with the abusive words and foul language. He called the other day and said….. what yall eat today? I said we went out to dinner. He said  YOU MEAN TO TELL ME, IM OVA HERE EATING SPAGHETTI FOR  3  DAYUM DAYS IN A ROW (exaggerate) AND YALL WENT OUT TO DINNER? I just held the phone………. I cant do it anymore.

 

I use to be on punishments for summers and summers at a time!! I could never play with my friends. He never let up on me and my sister who is under me. She’ll get him told now, she does NOT play. I’ll just be like…… I’ll talk to you later daddy. My Sister married her high school sweetheart. They own about 12 houses, he has a heating and cooling company, and she’s an accounting for the city of Detroit, plus they live in a half million dollar home. My daddy feel that since they are doing well, that they suppose to run ova there whenever he wants something. They did it for years, he dogged them out. He still wants more, and more, and more, and more! I feel bad for him. Then he says ” I AINT CHANGING FOR NOBODY, THIS IS HOW IM GONE  DIE”. That mentality kills, and burns me up!! When he gets mad at me, he will call up all my siblings and my momma and tell them. He does the same to them. Now are so use to this I’ll be like………. okay.  I’m not about to disrespect my daddy, so I don’t deal with him as much. We talk 6 times a week probably more, cause he will blow your phone up! LOL But to go and sit in his messy house………. I don’t thank so. I take him to the doctor, store, our family functions……. but he drains me. He still has this control over me that drives me crazy…..even @ 42 years old. Lord, forgive me. I rather stay away, and keep points off my record with God, than to be in his presence and allowing him to continue the mental abuse !!

 

I needed to vent!!! I feel better too. I’ll be back with my next entry…….. A good one……more positive!!

 

Cree

 

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Eye Contact

Hey,

Thank you Lord for one of the best days @ work.  I met so many nice people through my line.

 I use to always wonder why whenever Im with friends, and someone else comes up and talk to us. Why do they ALWAYS make eye contact with ME? LOL Why do they always look at me, like Im the Leader of the people Im with? In meetings at work, it could be 1000 people in the room, the person speaking ALWAYS catch MY eye. I try to look away so that the person with me could get the “eye contact”, they always find their way back to my eyes. It never fails. LOL

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HEAR DIRECTLY from God

Hey Sweety Babies!!!

  

 I love words of endearment, they are powerful, they can put a smile on someone’s face, and it brings attention to your next conversation. I love to hear older ladies say ….Hello Sweety, suga, precious, darling, honey, baby, pretty, beautiful. Now that I’m in my40’s I’m always using these words to people I meet and greet. I also look at these words to show my self friendly. The bible tells us:

Proverbs 18:24 (King James Version)

 24A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

What I love so much about the Lord is that when I first wake up in the morning, he’s on my mind. It continues off from what ever went on with him yesterday. When I was back and forth and swimming “Way out to sea”, satan would ride me early in the morning as soon as I would open my eyes. And if you don’t pay it any attention, you will find yourself following that Spirit for the whole day. It’s this peace that comes over me in the mornings. Its like I get up and walk so lightly to the bathroom, feeling so good with God on my mind. Right now, I don’t have any money, my bills are paid, my daughters car ( I’m driving) is starting to make noise, and I have tons of events to attend every week in August. I prayed, and I’m not going to give any thought to any of it, on how I’m going to do it all. LOL I can’t, because the word ( bible) that keeps my mind stayed on Jesus!! I’m loving it. My best friend, keeps me grounded. I love her. And my other friend tells me to stay Focused!! I need that. I’m always the friend to someone, and I truly need them  in my life.

People its very important that we read the bible for ourselves. Man, I can’t express it enough. I hear people quoting Scriptures and that’s cool, but when we depend on THAT ALONE to Minister to us………..that’s not good. We can’t go on asking people to ask God this or that FOR US, just because they hear from God. You can hear from God too. Don’t try/want to piggy back off others who can hear from God. That means you’re not doing your part to get to know God FOR YOURSELF!!! God invites all to get to know him, you don’t have to wait for your phone to ring, to TELL OTHERS your story, then sit back and watch them AMEN your story. Let God be your guide. Why do you need others to tell you, what you can HEAR DIRECTLY from God? I just don’t understand that. And that’s why we have so many people trying to cling on to those who DO HEAR from God. Why is this happening? I say because people don’t want to put in the work with God. They are too busy, working, going to school, taking trips, etc, and not wanting to put in the time to spend with him. So they find people to cling on too, thinking that they can “get feed” through them. These people should be told that they need to build their own relationship with God.

Gotta go babies!

Cree

 

 

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Newness!

HEY!!!!

Praise God for a brand new day, a day that no one has ever seen. A day to get it together within!!! When I opened my eyes this morning, the first thing I said to myself is….. Thank God my eyes, I can see.

 So much is going on with me, where do I start? All good.

 

Mar’Neisha went to Ohio with her dad, aunt, and Step Sister, yesterday evening to visit her family till Monday. She was very angry with him yesterday morning. Oh my goodness. I had never known her to get so angry…. ever. He told her that they were pulling out of Detroit around noon. I was at work, and while I was in the bathroom… “something” told me to text her and see have they left yet, cause I know her dad, he will tell you he’ll be at your house ( because he’s “down the street”) in one minute, and he’ll  get there in 30. Neisha is that Virgo that likes to be on time NO EXCEPTIONS!!! I’m that Virgo that will be saying, here I come, here I come,  give me one mo mintue…… about 20 times. LOL So, when she text me back, she was soooooo angry because she called him and said… look dad it’s after 12 what’s up? He said I’m doing this job, we’ll pull out around 4ish 5 ( they end up leaving around 7ish ). She asked him why didn’t he call everybody that’s riding with him and tell them? I dunno what he said, but she had to called her aunt, and Step Sister and tell them about the change. Then she texted and told me, that she didn’t want to have flash backs of her waiting for him to pick her up as a child. OMG… I never knew she felt that way….. at all. I  had to called my baby to put things in order. I told her to pray about it, and ask God to take away the bad thoughts she has having, she was crying. I felt so bad for her. He does this a lot to her/everybody!! All the time. He use to do me like that. I know him like a book. She just has to learn that if she is going to deal with him when it comes to family functions and traveling, she has to not let it get to her. She already knows how he is. I told her you need to make up in your mind, if you’re going to deal with him when it comes to trips? They travel to Ohio and Atlanta about 5 times a year. But still he is her dad, and as a mother, I’m not going to let her carry anger around with her. I asked her is it that you wanted to go to Ohio so badly, she said No ma, it’s the fact that I had to call HIM and ask him why isn’t he here yet.She says he does this all the time. She said we all got up at 7 ish in the morning and we were all at home waiting. I got that. After I calmed her down and talked with her, we hung up and I sat on my break in Subway thinking, should I text him and let him know that he needs to stop having ppl wait on him every trip they take? God was like NOPE, don’t do it. She is 23 and can talk to her dad in her own way. That is an issue that she needs to talk with him on if they are going to travel together. It was hard, but I put the phone down and let it go. When I got home, I told her I wanted to text him, she said NO MA you didn’t do you? I said no, and she was happy. LOL But when he finally finished and came to get her and her step sister from at my house, she was madddd at him!!! He said Lacrease, she’s mad at me aint she? LOL I said yep, you’re gonna have to fix this one yourself boo!!! LOL Its very seldom Neisha gets angry, but when she does its hard for her to forgive right away. I don’t like that about her. I can forgive instantly. She will ignore you, like you are not in the room. I can’t. She text me last night when she got there and I asked her did they talk on the way there, and she said a little. I told her to neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr allow herself to get on that level of anger again, forgive him, but learn your own lesson from it. Whatever that is!

 

Last night after I got off work, I came home and read the whole book of Job. Took me hours,  becuse of phone calls, emails, dinner, and quick naps. lol I read the bible daily on-line as well. I love that because it gives you a little at a time to read without feeling overwhelmed. Okay, I’m about to ramble because I need to be getting dressed to go to dinner with my momma @ 5… its 4:32. She woke me up this morning saying, Lets go out to dinner today, just me and you. I LOVE IT!!!! MY SISTERS ARE GOING TO BE JEALOUS. HAHAHA And my momma made me a banana pudding 3 days ago. They would burn my house down if they knew that. ROFLLL. I begged my momma not to tell them, cause if they knew they would come ova and “tear the club up”. Then my nieces and nephews love it, OH LAWD I WOULD HAVE A FIT, seeing all of them going in the cabinet grabbing bowls. LOL ME and my momma ripped that bowl of  HOMEMADE banana pudding apart!! Baaaaaaaaby when I say, we “tore the club up”…….. please believe it. HAHAHAHA (my spooky laugh).

 

 

My coworker ( white lady) lost her boyfriend a few days ago, tomorrow is the funeral. She is the one who keeps me uplifted at work, prays with me there, and for me. She gives me a word from God, and she always knows when something is on my mind. Ahhhh, she is soooo intuned with me. She’s around her early 50’s. I feel bad because I thought her close Walmart gurl Ms. Denise, would send a card around, and she probably did/would, but she wasnt at work yesterday. The bad part is, I hate that I didn’t do it. I waited for somebody else to do it, when I should have done it. She approached me yesterday as I was leaving for the day and said, Sat is the funeral, please keep me in your prayers. I looked into her eyes and wondered why wasnt I passing a card for her. SMH. Gotta boss up my Awareness. My other co-worker who I talk about God with, she came to me and ask for a few dollars, I gave them to her, and when I got home. I sat at my kitchen and began to pray for her, to pray for her finances.  She’s having a hard time right now, and I feel for her. AT first I was going to put it off till later, but I can hear God telling me to go ahead NOW. So, I did. Dont yall know the very next day I went to work, and when my co-worker saw me walk into the door she told me after I punch in to come here. I did. She told me that when I walked into the door JUST NOW, she got chills when she saw me. She said so deep that it bought tears to her eyes. She said last night she had this dream that God blessed us both financially, like bless us GOOD!!!! And instantly I thought about how I wasnt going to pray until God told me o do it! Now, had I not prayed, I would have been feeling pretty stupid as she was telling me what she dreamed about. LOL I said God you could have picked her and any of the 200 plus co workers to be in that dream with her, but you chose me. I said I’m so glad that I was Obedient!!! When I prayed for her…………. I prayed for myself as well !!! I told her about my prayer and she teared up while ringing up a customer. I see there is still  a lot for me to learn 🙂 

 

 

 I am so behind on my movies……… I wanna see my gurl Angelina Jolie in Salt this weekend.Been kinda broke lately. At least all my bills are paid. Thats all that matters. Been paying my Tithes for 12 weeks straight in a row, just as God told me. No cutting corners, paying him first off the top!!!  My August is jammed pack. August 14, I’m going to a wedding!! Been waiting for this one for a while. August 21, my good friend is having a Gurls Night at her house,  and on August 28, about 45 of my Anita Baker friends are coming into town. There are so many of us. WE have hotels booked, and we are having dinner Sat just before the concert. I’m excited. My money better be looking alright!! LOL My Sistergurls group is going strong. It’s just hard to get women to open up and chat. I made the group private. But when they chat…….. they chat, so that’s good. There are 41 of us, if I could only get half to open up. So, I started thinking, wait………… I don’t have to do this work all by myself. I sent out an email to the group asking for others to help post Scriptures, videos, testimonies and 4 ppl replied. I told them what I wanted/vision. And today is the 3rd day. So that’s a plus. People want to talk about baby daddy’s, and bad men all the time. I don’t. Thats not where I’m going. Anyway……….. I’m about to get dressed for dinner , and I’ll post this weekend!!

 

Cree

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Quick Note!

Hey,

Praise God for another day. I went down to the Detroit River this morning for 3 1/2 hours to spend time with God. I had a wonderful time. As I got near Belle Isle tears just started flowing because of this new spark in my life. I’m grateful! My Sistergurls Ministry is off and running!!! I’m so excited. I can see so many things are about to take place, I just have to stay focused and to keep learning all that I can. I gotta go for now. Thank you Lord for all that you’ve done for me!

Cree

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MINISTRY MINDED~ Our Children/Pep Talks

I observe children a lot. It’s my Ministry. When Neisha was growing up I got all kinds of flack about how tough I was on her, and how strict I was on her for even the tiniest things……. like leaving her things when she went to spend the night out, or keeping up with her barettes  when SHE sees them on the floor. I admit I was tough on her. But now that she’s 23 she tells me all the time how that has taught her to keep up with her things. She travels way more than I do, and whenever its time to pack, she can remember everything she took with her on the trip.

 

We train kids to be the adults they are today. I’m convinced that even if a mother or father isn’t in the home of that child, God will send a parent, teacher, pastor, friend, relative in that persons life to plant seeds. When a child acts up in the grocery store in front of lots of people, the parent makes  a decision right there to discipline that child, or “wait till they get home”. Children needs to know that where you show out, is where you learn you can never show out again.

 

  

A child is supposed to act up in the grocery store at least one time. Let me explain why. They come into this world knowing nothing, they are assigned a guardian to teach and guide them, and when they do something wrong the very first time, its our/the parent time to teach them that showing out in public is a no-no. Thats how they learn.We are to train them right from wrong. When you take your child to the movies for the very first time. I believe that a parent should give them a pep talk. They should say: Listen, ( name of child, and using direct eye contact) we’re going to the movies. This is a place where lots of people come in, sit down, eat candy, popcorn, food, and drink pop. You  are not allowed  to talk at all ( of course they will talk, but we should train them to whisper and not talk loud.  Teach them that if they get sleepy in the movie, they can be quiet and take a nap in the chair. But to disturb others in the movie will NEVER BE TOLERATED. See, when we teach our children what WE expect from them, they understand. So that when we don’t they will do and say what they want. And when we take them out into the world, and there are no rules , threats ( with the eyes) or consequences, your/our children will surely show out.

 

  

What will happen when you take your child to the movies with NO PEP talk? When a child walks into a movie  theatre that is about to start. First thing they notice is people sitting down, talking low, eating and drinking. When the lights go out, its quiet. A child with no PEP TALK,  will talk just because they know 1. they won’t get in trouble for it. 2. they have the attention of everyone there, because of how quiet it is. A child like this, will have the parent running up and down the aisle chasing their child,screaming at them, telling them to be quiet and threatening them, and having to apologize to everyone in their area. Thats not fair to the parent, the child, or to others who are enjoying the movie.

  

 

Why do parents allow their children to do what they want to do, in a way that it inconvenience others? Some are  too embarrassed to “check” their children in public, fearing it will draw attention to the situation. Some don’t like to say NO to their children, because they are PARENTS who didn’t want their parents to say NO to them when they were children. Some parents don’t  want ANYONE to tell them NO,  at all.

 

 

  

The bible tells us clear….. (Heb 12:6) “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” (Pr 22:15) “The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” (Pr 29:15) And “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” (Pr 13:24) Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

 

 

Be Blessed

Cree

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“LOVE AND COMMUNICATION”

 

Today was a good day. Thank you Lord. Talk with a few customers today, learned some new things in general so  my 4 hours went fast. But………. on the way home, I-94 was shut down and it took me 1 1/2 hours to get home, when it only takes 8 minutes IF that. Time in traffic ALWAYS makes me think about my life……. ALWAYS. Today’s thoughts was like Part 2 of what I was going to blog about anyway, now I’m at the point where I’m just irritated about it. So, today is the day that I post “Whats really on my mind”.

 

 

Growing up with 3 siblings

 

Growing up in my house as the oldest was hard to me. I was in charge of them whenever my mom and dad had to run and do errands. My sisters and brother use to get on my nerves. LOL But there is one thing I can say about them. We love each other. We love each other deeply.  Growing up we were never allowed to fight. If we got caught, or even if 2 were fighting and the others told, we were in DEEP TROUBLE. Hitting was a no-no in our house. I can’t even remember ever fighting my Sisters and brother. If somebody did fight, you can better believe the others are going to run and tell so that they can watch my momma and daddy whoop them! LOL That was a treat!!! If we had a disagreement, our parents would let us argue it out, and then when it got on their nerves they would say “Okay now SHUT THE HELL UP DAMMIT”! And believe me, when I say that was the end of that, it was the end of that!!! LOL Then my daddy would say, now  HUG, KISS AND make UP!!! OMG that was the hardest thing to do. That to us was equivalent to putting your hands in a fryer full of hot grease!!! We HATED to make friends after a heated debate. What parents does that? Are you serious? At least wait till we have cooled down. If, we had a physical fight, and had to make up that would have been different, because we would have felt bad about hitting on each other, but just after an argument? I don’t think so. LOL

 

 

Growing up we really couldn’t go many places, because my daddy was always protective over us. So, since we all had different personalities we would have tons of people on our porch. And we all got alone. WE were the kinda kids that were peaceful, we couldn’t fight, so we didn’t pick/chose friends that fought either. If only one of us would come and sit out on the porch, then the whole block would come over. And if there were 2 or more of us, OMG, then friends from blocks ova would come over and we would have so much fun. Sitting outside till sometimes 4am. 

 

 

As we got older, but still at home, we started dating. We all had different types of boyfriends and gurlfriends. They knew how close we were, and none of our boyfriends/gurlfriends step outta line . WE were known for CUTTING OFF PEOPLE WHO DIDNT MEAN US WELL. We had each other, WHY deal with the mess? That was all of our mentality. MY daddy always told us that we were “bricks” and that we were strong and that “bricks” stick together. And so we took that into our lives and we raised our children on that same motto. Growing up, I can never remember none of us stepping over the line as it concerns each others boyfriends. We let it be known to the guys that we didn’t play that, so we never had that problem. But we did step to boyfriends and my brothers girlfriends when they tried to play them. We didn’t fight, but we let it known that, “what you are doing to my sister can no longer go on”. We didn’t play. We were known around the neighborhood for that. We talked it out, we got you face to face to find out “What the problem IS”? LOL We didn’t talk in circles, or related messages to one person to another. WE knocked on doors to get to the problems. We talked things out. And so that is how we learned how to deal with ISSUES……. then and NOW.  

 

 

Dealing with other people

 

 We were straight up kids. We were honest, giving, loving and always were faithful to each other.During that time we were living at home, I can’t really think of people who were “snakes” or back stabbing. I don’t know was it because we had each other that we didn’t experience too much back stabbing, or fights, but we didn’t. It was foreign to us. If you were one of the people who sat on our porch, then you were a friend to us. And  after all these years later, we still have the same friends. ALL OF US!! LOL Funny.

 

 “I love you”

My parents were telling us that they Love us everyday!!!! We heard that all day. We got hugs and kisses just because we were sitting next to a parent. Hugs soothes me to this day, and the same for my daughter. She has to have hugs and kisses from me. She demands it!!! LOL My mom said when she was growing up, her mom didn’t tell her she loved her much, my dad didn’t hear it either. They made a promise before I was born, before they got married, that they would let their kids know that they are loved. And they made good on that!!! Our friends would tell us that their parents didn’t tell them that, because we were so affectionate growing up, we would tell our mom and dad we loved them and give them kisses in front of our friends, and it was nothing to us. But as we got older, people tried to make it seem as we were spoiled, or different, because they wasnt hearing this kinda talk in their homes. It didn’t bother us at all growing up because, my dad and mom had already told us everybody wasnt going to experience this type of Love. Dayum were they ever right.

 

When the 4 of us started having kids, we made ONE promise TO EACH OTHER ABOUT OUR KIDS, and that was that we raise our kids to NOT fight each other LIKE WE WERE RAISED. See we knew that kids would be kids, and that cousins can have it out too, especially since we are a very close family. When the kids would get mad at each other, we told them NO FIGHTING AT ALL, IF ANY ONE GET CAUGHT…….. ‘THAT’S A BUTT WHOOPING ON THE SPOT. They never did. Today my daughter is 23, my nephews are 19 16,12 my nieces are  19, 16, . They ALL love each other soooooo, soooooo much, if yall could see them, yall would think they were brothers and sisters. When they walk into each others houses we hug and kiss on each other, like  we havent seen each other in years. When we all live just around the corner from each other.  My sisters and my daughter still kiss on the lips when they greet each other!!!!! We drive each other crazy the way we lean, kiss, and hug on each other. WE be like dang………. get off me, let me get some air!!! LOL And when they have children they will raise them to be the same way. This is all we know. They don’t stab each other in the back, they don’t gossip about each other ,and get mad and bring up old stuff, they don’t cross the line and date each other ex’s or present boyfriends/girlfriends. When they ARGUE  for anything it gets loud and go on………… FOR MINTUES!!! LOL THEN they make friends and you’ll never believe they had that argument in the first place. LOL We don’t mind, because its better than physical fighting, they need a way to vent, so do it, AND BE DONE WITH IT!!!

 

“Stepping out on our own”

When I moved out  I found out quickly what kinda people lived outside of the house we grew up in. People were sleeping with my man, back stabbing me, being fake. I didnt know what I had stepped into. I trust people right off the bat. With me. ……everybody had “instant credit”. Meaning, you were my friend right off rip, until you did me wrong . I trusted everybody. I grew up thinking that everybody was suppose to love you and cherish your friendship. I didnt know sisters were against sisters, Moms sleeping with their daughters men, boyfriends raping you, your friends brothers feeling all over your vagina. This wasnt happening in my house, what kinda world did I step into? I was truly lost, and devasted by the way I allowed people to treat me because of how nice I was. I was devasted. I showed Love to people and they misused me. They were jealous of Me because Im lightskinned, had a brick house shape, pretty, big behind, with little waist. All I wanted was friends that were just like my Sisters and my Brother.

 

 

Fast forward to today. All of us ( my sisters and brother) find it challenging sometimes how life at home, differs from life now. SMH! We were the kind of kids where, if we didn’t talk to you for 3 weeks, the next time we talk to you, we would continue off from where we left at. Some of our (new) friends today, if we havent talked  them in 2 days, them we would have to go back to day one, as if we were talking for the very first time.  They get mad at us!!!! They look at it as a form of DISS AND DISCONNECTION. WE find ourselves getting into debates with our friends about “not calling for a few days”. We werent needy siblings. We don’t have to talk everyday to know that we are still friends, when we do talk thats our chance to “Catch up” NOT re: get to know each other all over again. We can go  4 days without calling each other and when we see or call each other, we are talking for hours. It’s so hard for us in this area. We were raised up that your friend is your friend. You don’t gossip about them, you don’t fight them, you show them you love them by sticking by them no matter what. If your friend is wrong,  you deal with the trouble they are in right then and there, BUT,  when you get then in private you tell them how you feel. And in the end you are still friends. That’s how we grew up.

 

 

My one sister is married, and my other sister is engaged.My brother is divorced. They tell US all the time… “I never met a family like this”. They say, we didn’t grow up saying I love you, or give me a hug and kiss. I tell my brother n laws that I love them all the time, and at first it was like dang……..for real.You Love me? Now when we all depart, they say I love you Sis. Then that’s when you have to start showing it. They can ask me for anything, and its done!!!  And I know I can go to them as well. They love my Sisters and that’s all I want. We don’t tell each other our personal business that will start confusion and make us all turn away from each other. I LOVE THAT. I don’t wanna hear my sister’s business, unless she needs to vent, and that’s my time to Minister, other than saying “LEAVE HIM”!!! It always works out.

 

Me, I’m having a hard time with people. I can say “I love you boo, and God Bless you”… that means to people of the outside world. I need to borrow some money, what do you want or need from me?  This mentality kills me to no end. I tell customers I love you. Some embrace it, because they somehow believe it, and others look like……. you don’t even know me to love me. Its sad. People are so into how the world  sees LOVE, that they can’t grasp it long enough to feel it for themselves. I always tell my coworkers I LOVE THEM!! ALWAYS. When we  are short on money or anything, we go to each other and we look out. I love them dearly.

 

“Communication”

 

When it comes to Communication……… if I can’t have it…….. I don’t need  friendships. I’m a straight to the point person. I hate for people to beat around the bush to ask or confront me on something they need to talk to me about. A person shouldnt care if that person being confronted is mad about it or not. I didn’t grow up like that, I didn’t build friendships on beating around the bush. Tell me the truth, be upfront with me. don’t play mind games, tell me your real question, ask me anything. IM DIFFERENT THAN MOST PEOPLE, YOU DEAL WITH!!!! Most of the time I can figure out while you’re asking me something, but sometimes I can’t. And people need to know that you don’t have to do that with me. Just ask me straight out what you want. That makes me upset. I can take you for the longest ride of your life, if you don’t just tell me what it is you want to confront me on. Cause if I have to figure it out on my own, when we could have talked about it in its entirety, I’m done. I don’t like that, because it shows that there is no communication in our friendship at all. And I’m finding out that there are so many people out here like that, and I’m having a hard time dealing with people like this because I don’t understand this kinda communication and friendship. Its hard for me to even be myself without a person feeling that I want something from them, or is trying to get information. You can offer to take someone home, and they think  YOU are low on gas and need gas money. I shake my head at people because Communication goes a long way. If I want/need anything I can go to my family to get it. I don’t need to use anyone, for ANYTHING!!!! NEVA HAD TOO!!! The more you tell someone “I Love You sweety, or boo, or honey, they think you want something. In my house growing up, the next thing you get or do would be a hug and kiss and I love you back. You tell people that nowadays, and they are reaching for their wallets to hide. IM SADDEN BY THIS.

 

People remember Communication is Everything. If there’s anything you want to talk to someone about. Dont take them through all these hoops, back doors, blocks and corners. If somebody tell you NO, dont keep going back there until you  hear a YES….. then take that as the final answer. No!!!  Don’t use them for information then do what you do best. That’s bold. If someone tells you they Love you, don’t think they want something from you. Embrace it, take it for face value.

 

La’Crease

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