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Hell to the Neva Naw/The QUEEN of planning/Meeting Soon (((((Blog)))))

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After having Nesha, people always and to this day ask me… do I want anymore children? My answer is Hell to the Neva Naw. I don’t care how long his money is, how sweet a person he is, how bad he wants one with me, nor the fact that he doesn’t have any. I can’t even IMAGINE a LOVE that strong to make me change my mind. I can’t even IMAGINE loving a man so deeply that I would change my mind about having one with him. I be dogone if I stay home and raise kids while he work 80 hours a week. Some women would love to give birth again even after having grown adult children. At this point in my life, I want to enjoy my husband. I want to travel and stay in different hotels, take cruises and even host parties. Nesha’s dad is the ONLY man who child I have and WILL carry. Why am I even writing about this….. I don’t even talk about it in person. But IJS.

* photo Nesha her dad and brother*

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My brother is having his first baby at 41. Yesss, and we love his girlfriend. I think that he may marry her, she is sweet as pie. She’s a young gurl too only 25… see that’s what those MEN OF MONEY AND POWER want.. a young gurl to carry his baby. Well, go head baaaaby.. its your life. I aint mad at you. LOL LOL LOL He has the money to take care of them both…. did I mention that she has twins all through her family, and for 3 months she is HUGE!! We’ll know this month when she has her doctors appointment. And guess what? She asked me to throw her a baby shower. The QUEEN of planning. Yes… I’m honored. So, now I get to see whats going on with a Wedding ( Sep 2015) and how its planned ( will be interning ) and I get to throw the Baby Shower of my brother. So… I’m getting my experience in for real.

Have you wanted something so badly to come true that you can taste it? You prayed and prayed on it, and you know God is going to let it come to past, that you think about it so deeply then you just let it go… ONLY BECAUSE YOU KNOW ITS GOING TO HAPPEN SOON? That’s how I’m feeling right now. I’m so excited… every time I think about it.. I get this butterfly feeling in my heart. God has been working behind the scene all this time to make this come true. I can’t wait to see this person face to face… eye contact.. facial expression… everything in my thoughts and dreams. Father God in the name of Jesus that time is almost here.. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!

Alright people… on my way to bed.. have a long day tomorrow……Oh yeah and  ESPECIALLY this weekend. Yesss!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

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Elders/Respect/Living For Tomorrow/Ephesians 4:32

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Every time someone post a YOUTUBE video about teens, women or babies… its almost always SPOOKY to watch. These days no one has respect for our Elders. I’m 46 years old and you will never catch me cussing in PUBLIC, on Facebook, or anywhere else in front of them. I just don’t believe that ANY CONVERSATION is so deep, where you can’t find other words to use to help you get your point across.  How can you not look at them with a special eye when they walk pass you? You’re suppose to ALWAYS look them in the eye, smile, speak and ask them how they’re doing? How can someone go on with their normal day and not give these people RESPECT? Even just walking pass someone you’re suppose to acknowledge their presence. So what you don’t know them… open your mouth and speak. If God took your mouth and your voice away.. I bet you break your back trying to make SOMEBODY/ANYBODY notice YOUR “NOW”… NON SPEAKING SELF.

This behavior has to be practiced. Women, Sisters, Aunts, Uncles, Brothers, Nephews…. when you see this happening in your family or with someone you know… open your month and make them speak. This builds Character, and also RESPECT. Speaking is FREE… I see if money was deducted from your pay check, and you have to cut down on the number of people you speak to in a pay period… BUT ITS FREE.

STOP cussing, and having disrespectful conversations in front of our Elders. Think before you speak. Stop making your daughters twerk and then putting these things on line for others to see. One day when they grow up and become different people, they will spend years or the rest of their lives convincing people they’re not that person anymore. Whenever you make a choice, make sure its not just for TODAY…. make sure its one you can live with JUST IN CASE YOU CHANGE. Make sure your conversations are seasoned with “salt” in good taste. Pleasant. Show yourself friendly. Everything is FREE!

32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:32 (New International Version)

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

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How to deal with family on HOLIDAYS/Rough Look/My Boo (((((Blog)))))

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* All photos are of MY family*

As a Woman… I LOVE LOVE LOVE to look rough, or have bad days. Because I know when I do my hair…… and put on some clothes…. Baaaaaaaaby….head spins. LOL Ladies its okay to have those days. I know people who would never get caught looking “rough”… but to me THEY LOOK THE SAME EVERYDAY. I hate to see a ” ON PURPOSE SAME FACE” …. looking person. I love seeing a man with different looks. I love seeing his facial hair growing out and looking dirty because of WORK… then goes into the bathroom to shower, and shave looking like a totally different person. I LOVE THAT. TURNS ME ON….. LIKE REALLY TURNS ME ON REAL HARD. LOL As a woman I never want to look the same EVERDAY ALL DAY… these types of people…. you can tell love to POWER CONTROL their atmosphere and would DIE.. if they’re caught looking any other way.

Saw my boo today… I just LOVE a man who speaks my language * talking junk*… loving and sweet at the same time. Side ways talking…. HATE IT. There is a difference.

In other news. The holiday weekend is approaching, and I hope that FAMILIES can come together and have a good time. There is nothing wrong with FRIENDS hanging out, but FAMILIES are so important. As I study human behavior, I’m finding that people who don’t get along with FAMILY.. cling to FRIENDS… and found that they have more tolerance for them. I wish that people would understand…. that its okay if you have a family member who gossip and talk to much. Thing is LEARNING how to deal with them. Learn how to work their personality. Its okay to give your family members a few days or weeks off.. but don’t let it go on for years. Don’t let another family functions come up and YOU don’t want to go because YOU don’t want to have to deal with AUNTIE BETTY. Learn how to chose your lanes…

Let me give you an example: My auntie loves to drink, and when she does, she don’t get drunk. SHE’LL JUST HEM YOU UP and talk for hours about things that happened to her when she was younger, and how to deal with it, in case it happens to you. Now me… when I’m at FAMILY FUCTIONS I like to work the room, talk to this person, laugh with this person, dance with that person, cry , talk JUNK * cause that’s what I do in LOVE AND FUN*. But at the same time my Auntie needs someone to listen to her stories. So, instead of saying.. I’m not coming to the FUCNTION because Auntie Betty is going to get me in the corner and I’ll be force to listen to her stories for hours. I’ll say hey auntie….listen for 10 minutes, and tell her… I’ll catch up with you later going over to talk to Lisa. People have to learn how to talk to others to get your point across KNOWING you’re not offending. If you have a BIG MOUTH COUSIN who sits up and brags about what she have, what she’s trying to get, what she want and all this other stuff…. speak and chat a little…. THEN KEEP IT MOVING…. don’t become a AUDIENCE MEMBER TO HER. See this is the reason why people act a FOOL at FAMILY FUCTIONS…. they HAVE YOU AS A audience member. Being a member allow these people to DO AND SAY WHATEVER….. LISTEN LOVES…… ALL SHOWS GET CANCELLED WHEN RATINGS ARE LOW!!!! * WINK* SHUT FUNNY ACTING FAMILY MEMBERS DOWN AND still enjoy them. After a while, they’ll come around and be your BEST FAMILY MEMBER.

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Enjoy your JULY 4TH HOLIDAY WEEKEND!

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

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Huge Problem/Weight Loss Update/Know your worth…. (((((Blog)))))

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Wow, can you believe that its July 1 already?

Time is really flying. Reminds me how people are doing any and everything these days. No respect for human life, no respect for each other and no respect for themselves. If one person can get an “Amen” from the person or people they respect most, no matter how bad it is…. its okay with them. They befriend “like minded” people, and go out to celebrate it. Reminds me of the days in the bible when Noah was building the ark, and everyone was doing their own thing. I have a HUGE PROBLEM with people calling WRONG…RIGHT. Now I see why God said to confess your sins. Anything you believed you’ve sinned about, you’ll confess and be covered. But anything you feel is right, and ITS WRONG ((( and you know its wrong)))… and don’t confess… its not covered under that umbrella.

In other news.. I’ve been walking.. tomorrow makes my 4th day. I love to walk. My back yard is actually a park. Its huge too. So every morning, I will go out and walk around the huge circle… as time go by.. I’ll walk it several times. I have a short term goal to meet by next weekend. I’m doing my thang…bout to kill em in my dress next month!!!

Saw my sweety today…. ahhh he looks so sexy when he’s working and not even noticing my presence .. I love it. And when he does….. * melts me*

I love a man who communicates and expresses how he feels… good or bad.. Not run away, hide, avoid questions, and has a arrogant Spirit. I don’t come from that type of environment to deal with all those ‘ISSUES”… that’s really what they are. So, I say that to say ladies, Women….. my Sistergurls… know your worth. Know already what you will and will not put up with. If there’s anything on your list of “will not accept” and you clearly see it happening to you……cut if off. I let things go to far.. but I have NO PROBLEMS WALKING AWAY. I LOVE ME.. I LOVE ME… I LOVE ME.. I LOVE ME. I LOVE MEEEEEE.

Be Blessed

 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

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Ms. Cree a Wedding /Events Planner? ((((((((Blog))))))))

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Hey Yall ( In the voice of CCain68—-Youtube)

For a while now I’ve been thinking about going back to school this fall to become a Therapist . I’m a great listener, give wisdom advice, and to top that off, I’m very private when it comes to other people’s business. As I’m thinking about that. I vision myself sitting in a room listening to my clients. But then out of the blue…. I remembered that I was to go to the web site of a photographer to see photos of a wedding I went to last Sunday of my friends Diane and Ommunad. While viewing them something just clicked in my head. I mean it hit me hard. Very hard. HAMMER HARD… A light bulb went off. I heard sirens, bells and WHISTLES in my head. …….To become a Wedding/Event Planner.

It just makes so much sense. I have the patience to deal and work with different personalities from working 10 years at Walmart * smile*, I love making business calls, and making things happen. I love to meet in person to have all my questions answered and direct communication taken care of. I know how to market myself , on social sites, and in person. I have the gift to console. And the biggest thing I thought about…..I have planned so many events… that THIS MAKES EVEN MORE SENSE TO BECOME A WEDDING/EVENT PLANNER. WHY DIDNT I THINK OF THIS BEFORE? I’m laughing so loud right now!!! HAHAHAHAHA

Now I know why every time a birthday comes up or something that cause for a celebration… people always call me to plan it. I’m just thinking they call me because I love doing it.. .But somewhere in these people minds…. they must feel that I’m good at it. Wow. I never looked at it like that.

I started thinking about the time when I was in my 20’s I’d throw backyard parties for our neighborhood. I became so known for throwing them, that people off the street would ask me… when is the next time you’re throwing another party? After doing that in the summer. I remember planning a coming home party for my brother in the Marines. As time went on, I threw gurl talk parties in my apartment all the time. They were so popular, I would throw them out of the blue all year. We’d eat, talk, laughing, drink and have a good time. Wow, now I know my fascination with  cameras.

I also planned and spoke at my A Virtuous Woman Dinner Gathering that was more on a Spiritual Level, I had close to 50 guest with gifts and a lovely dinner. Several times( about 8 times) I gathered my family and friends on Thursday Nights to the premiere of a Tyler Perry movie.  I always gathered 15 or more to the midnight showing . Even when people had to work the next morning…. I knew how to get them to come out. When that went well…. I planned For Colored Girls Movie and Dinner on a Saturday afternoon and dinner  at Ruby Tuesday… I had a turn out of 32 women at the same movie theater… at the same time. I started my own Youth group called Raisingurls to Women, and also Sistergurls, which was over 100 people in attendance combined. For over a period of 5 years.

In 2008 I started Cree’s feeding the Homeless for Thanksgiving. Every year on that Wednesday before we  pass out dinners. This year 2014 will be our 6th year . I enjoy putting together a menu, plan and a vision to complete it. We also put together Valentines Gift Bags for the homeless and pass them out on that day. I’ve also put together sandwiches and dinners in the summer that we pass out to the Homeless as well.

As I’m typing I’m thinking of more events I put together. I’m apart of Anita Baker and Maxwell Fan sites.. and when they came to Detroit in the past… I helped schedule events for our out of town guest. I was also the Mistress of Ceremonies for the Anita Baker Crew…. yes it was nice!!! I also put together with my cousin Gus, our FAMILY DINNERS AND FAMILY REUNION GATHERING with so much food, fun and love . LOL LOL Wow I forgot all about this. I also helped my BFF Gloria put together her mom and her kids mom birthday party program book…which was very elegant. I’m laughing so hard right now…. LOL LOL I almost forgot.. I WAS THE WEDDING COORDINATOR/PLANNER for my brothers Wedding. OMG. He ask me to do it, because I loved to plan. I’ve never done a wedding before and it was challenging. I bought a book to help me plan and I also looked to the Internet for help. Looking back I left out a few things, but you better believe I KNOW WHAT THEY ARE NOW!!! I forgot all about that. Thank you Jesus for answering my prayers and showing me what I know I CAN DO…. Now its time to do the work * in my Iyanla voice*

For the life of me.. I can’t understand how I didn’t know that this is what I want to do. It has crossed my mind many years ago, but today after looking at those photos, its very clear to me…. that this is who I am. My communication skills, business, marketing, close attention to details … research, writing and planning skills. And guess what? I STILL GET TO BE A THERAPIST/Counselors TO ALL THE PEOPLE INVOLVED WITH THE WEDDING/EVENTS. YEAAA #WINNING

Okay … yall I have work to do!!! Lots of research, classes , and seminars in my area.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

 

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LOVE is not a POWER STRUGGLE ……(((((BLOG)))))

 

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Hey

I had a wonderful last few days. Sometimes you just gotta make moves in order to feel good about yourself or a certain situation. There is nothing wrong with it either.

There’s this guy that I’ve been feeling for a long time that I get to see daily. I pay attention to consistency in a man. This person is the same every time I see him. He always have a pleasantness about him that I just love. He doesn’t even have to say much, he’s a doer. He’s one of those type of guys that enjoys to cook and have family barbecues at his house, family or a park. I always admire that in a man. When he speaks I listen, he’s so interesting, so helpful. So sweet, so honest and truthful.

These days some MEN are motivated by having MONEY, BIGGER AND “BETTER”. Some will never enjoy life in a family way, because they’re too busy either chasing MONEY…. OR/AND OOOOS AND AHHH’S. Sad part is, many of them don’t know how to LOVE. They’ve never experienced real love, because they’re so busy trying to impress people. Real love is displayed by dinners, seeing each other, walks on the beach, good mornings and good nights. Spending time taking rides together, small talk between being busy. Communication, agreements, compromise and understanding Not POWER STRUGGLING, demanding, one way conversations, side talking, and broken ” I’ll get back to you in a moment” and never do situations. Be done with those types of BUMS.Catch them on JUDGEMENT DAY and not a hour before.

I come from a family who LOVE TO LOVE on each other. WOMEN KNOW YOUR WORTH!

Be Blessed

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Jealousy………… ((((((((((Blog))))))))))

Friday night my 2 sisters and I went out to dinner at Applebees…. we sat for 5 hours talking and catching up on our lives. We were having many conversations but the one that stood out the most was the fact that we’re not jealous when it comes to being in a relationship. For me I was never a jealous person until I met my daughters father. Before him I was never insecure. I knew I was pretty, had a great family, nice personality… but when I met him and having to deal with all the women. It made me a bitter person. It took me years to get over him and over the way the relationship made me feel. Over the years I met some pretty good men, that always made me feel so loved and so wonderful. I never had to deal with jealousy again.

The reason why I’m writing this is to say to my Sisters out there. Know you’re beautiful. Know that you are loved by God no matter how a man make you feel. Know that if you have to be in a relationship that makes you have to always look over your shoulders because of other women, or have to fight or go back and forth…. please don’t waste anytime getting help, or leaving that relationship. What woman in their right mind want to feel jealous and insecure of another woman? Women these days lose themselves in a marriage or in a unmarried relationship. You have to still love your life and enjoy it.

Let me say this too…. Sisters, you have to do your part in making your man feel secure. When you start trying to make him jealous, then one day down the line, it just maybe you….. who gets jealous . That’s a dangerous game to play. Find ways to entertain yourselves while he’s not around. Visit family and friends….. Don’t build your life around him…. that when he wants and needs a break, you find yourself whining and bored. Many women push themselves away from their family and friends when they get married or enter a relationship. Never do that. You never want to look up and have no one….but him. Down the line it makes him uncomfortable, and he’ll have to always find ways to entertain you. That’s not fair. Build your own life, and at the end of the day…  go home to the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou 

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Sistergurl Talk *woman to woman* ((((((Blog))))))

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So, I just finished watching Kandi’s Wedding. I’m just outdone by the disrespect and the lack of common sense used. I see clearly the drama that will eventually end in divorce if Kandi don’t get a grip of her mothers behavior. It kills me to see her going through this and not have a clue to how to stop her mother for just saying whatever she wants to say. My daddy is the same way, took me forever to learn how to deal with him. I’m so glad that I learned it before I got married.

Kandi has to say: Momma, I understand that you don’t too much care for Todd. I get that. So for now on to respect how you feel, I will ask you NOT to ask me about him, and I will NOT bring up his name. Not only that, but since you feel this way, I would appreciate if you NOT discuss him with anyone else, because I would hate to HEAR that you’re mentioning his name to anyone when you’ve expressed the way you feel. I feel that if you’re not feeling a person, then their name should never come out of your mouth.

I know and understand that Kandi have hope that each time she brings up Todd’s name that her mom would eventually come around…its not going to happen unless she tries something different. Its not even important why Momma Joyce feels the way she does, what’s important is that Kandi “gets it” before Todd gets fed up. I understand that she looks at her mother as her best-friend…. I get that. But some of the things that Momma Joyce says about Todd  is disrespectful and unacceptable. If Todd at A N Y T I M E feel that its gone to far, and feels that he can’t talk to Kandi as his best-friend and his WIFE …. there is no telling where this marriage will end. A man/woman can only take so much in a relationship when they’re not being heard.

 

Kandi needs to get a grip of what’s going on here with her mom disrespecting Todd ( her husband) in the way that she does, she’s going to lose him. I’m going to say this- When a man feels the need to TALK and VENT with someone who “understands” even if it means meeting a new woman who totally can be a friend without being in his immediate circle… he will. Todd goes out of town a lot early in the marriage, while she’s in Atlanta.. and if she’s calling him “filling” him in on what’s “said” and its drama from her mom, he’s going to eventually get tired of it. At some point, he’s going to feel that he needs to “talk” with that person who loves to listen and understand. That’s how outside relationships start. Those talks are going to show him that he’s in a marriage that will always be filled with drama. If he ever decides to leave Kandi. he will NOT fight for anything monetary or”stuff” (( material things)), he will walk away with his FREEDOM AND PEACE OF MIND…… and what can beat that? My prayer is that Kandi… get it. I just love Todd for her… and I love me some Kandi as well.

 

 

 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

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My Weight Loss Update/Hoarders and Food Addicts…..(((((Blog)))))

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Today was a great day!!! I can say that after a few days of feeling down in my Spirit. Sometimes you start thinking about things you have no control over and feel some kinda way. But after sitting still and asking myself do you trust God, and can you see a light at the end of the tunnel? My answer was yes, not only that, but I have God’s track record to look back on and KNOW he is totally in control. After I cry and whine a little… I bounce back.

Tonight I was watching Hoarders, I usually don’t like to watch this show because its so sad to see those people living in those conditions. All of that dysfunction comes from childhood issues, or things that happened in their adult life and as a result they start to live in their heads. But, tonight I decided to watch and…..what I found out Surprised me.

I’m a food eater. I love food! I’m a thinker. I think and over analyze a lot. I realized through watching Hoarders tonight, even though I’m not a hoarder, I LOVE to think while I’m eating. I love ice cream, and chocolate chip cookies that bakes in the oven. When I’m overwhelmed with thoughts and ideas… I like to FEED MY THOUGHTS AS I EAT. As the thoughts come to my mind, I eat while thinking. Many times after doing this, it never feels as if I’ve eaten anything, because I didn’t eat because its dinner time, I ate because I fed my thoughts. I know this will make sense to someone.

For so many years I have done this. It has become a habit. This is why I know for a fact that those Hoarders are doing this to feed their thoughts about their past. Its a form of therapy for them. Just as eating food and thinking is one for me.

Many years, I kept telling myself that I want to lose weight and get back to the “sexy walk into anyplace, and have everybody looking, because of my personality, Spirit and curvy body self.” But with so many thoughts coming to my mind about my past, now, life lessons, family, friends.. anything that’s going on with me at that time, I wasn’t able to focus on myself. I knew that when I FINALLY asked God to help me that I would know FOR A FACT that I was READY and serious about it.

Since the 7th of May with the 21 Day Challenge… I have lost a total of 12 pounds as of today June 2. I look at food TOTALLY DIFFEENT. I also had to change the programs that I was watching. Ooo wee this is so deep. I realized that when I watch shows like I almost got away, I killed my BFF, Fatal Attraction, Deadly Women, Wives with knifes, Redrum, Scorned, Evil Twins, Snapped…. that my mind start to think of who could have done this? What is the motive? I get angry, mad, and almost ready to fight those killers. I go right into detective mode… and while doing so… I HAVE TO FEED MY THOUGHTS WITH FOOD. I have to have a fatty snack usually baked cookies, or something to eat while I figure this out. WOW… GOD SHOWED ME THAT. He showed me that I do this. I paid attention to it and couldn’t do anything but laugh. It was a breakthrough for me. He is so right. So now, this is what I do. I wont buy pop, juice, cookies, ice cream, or anything that I love to eat in that way. I buy grapes, strawberries, kiwi, apples, watermelon * eating that now lol*, peanuts, salad, tuna, broccoli as snacks. I had to stop watching my favorite shows because they trigger personal thoughts and causes me to eat when I’m not even hungry. So, when I know for a true fact that I am doing very well with being consistent with losing weight, I’ll watch those shows again, but for now I watch cooking shows. I don’t like cheese at all, and by mostly everything is cooked with it, I watch the shows to NOT WANT TO SNACK AT ALL. I LOVE IT. This works for me.

I truly had to change the way I think and eat. Its amazing what you can learn about yourself…… when you ask God to help you.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

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