Author: lacrease

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Why did I get married? ………..PT8

Ladies, lets face it and get real about it. Men love sports. Its in their nature. They love the excitement, the tough ness, the drive, the dedication, the motivation. When it comes to a man watching his sports and you joining him. Its either you\’re all in, or you fall in! One or the OTHER.
Being single, I get to talk to my gurls and male friends that are married. And I have learned so much from them. I think about being married at 20 and realizing that I wouldn\’t KNOW JACK!! LOL
But I do know one thing, men loves a woman who loves to watch sports with him. Me? I love sports. I can tell you every every every every every play when it comes to football. I can measure right off rip when it comes to a first down, whether is short or good. I know a good kick off, a good field goal, and when its a flag/penalty. Foot ball is my favorite sport. And don\’t let him want to watch basketball, I got that too. And baseball………..whatchasay, I know every play there is in baseball. I know strikes and curve balls, all the players positions, when the manager is going to the bull pen to call another pitcher and everything. I don\’t know much about tennis, but I\’m willing to learn. I will watch a little of boxing, but I can\’t touch golf. Just for the fact of me thinking about \”whose going to go and get all them balls he hitting out there\”. Not me, that drives me crazy!!! I\’ll drive that car around all day tho. LOL .
Here\’s the deal.
Wives, if YOU don\’t enjoy sports, its OKAY, It really is. Don\’t take it to heart when your husband calls over a few of his friends to watch the game. Don\’t feel neglected. Enjoy that time for yourself. Before the game comes on, ask him what can YOU pick up from the grocery store for him and his friends to eat while the game is on? Its okay if they ask you to go get this and go get that for them. Men like to be pampered and spoiled too, just like us!!!
You are doing this for the man you chose to love. He will enjoy it. All while he\’s with this friends, he will be thinking about how good you treated them. Even if you chose to love a man who hardly shows/tell you he appreciates you, deep down he does. It\’s okay to make this time \”his\” time. Then go and get some YOU time in. Go shopping, or visit a friend, surf the net, or even call up some friends for a game of spades.
When the game is over, and the guys are gone, I bet you 100% of the time left, he\’s going to spend it with you. Why? Well for one, since you did go out shopping and made snacks for him and his buddies, he\’s automatically going to feel that he needs to let you know how much he appreciated it. You gave him his \”him\” time, you didn\’t guilt trip him on the fact that he\’s watching sports and not paying you attention, you didn\’t nag him to fix something he promised to do days ago, and………………his team probably won!!
So, I say that to say, if you love the game, join him. If you don\’t…..cater to him and find you something to do. When everyone is gone, its back to you and him. And it\’s O………..K
Cree

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Why did I get married?………………PT7

The bible says:

Proverbs 27 (New Living Translation)

15 A quarrelsome wife is as annoying
as constant dripping on a rainy day.
16 Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind
or trying to hold something with greased hands.

When I read that scripture first thing came to my mind was…………..how do God know that? Of course he knows that he made us. But my goodness that is so true!! LOL Im laughing cause the scripture says: Trying to stop her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or hold something with greased hands!!! Do you realize how hard that is? What is wrong with us? LOL How are we wired up so tough that its hard to stop?

I know I use to be the Queen of complaints, the Queen of arguing, the Queen of debating, the Queen of running my mouth following behind my boyfriend constantly talking, or calling him on the phone none stop until he turned the ringer off on me. What\’s up with that ladies? Why do we do that?

Well, I\’ll tell you this. If the bible warns us ahead of time and its ruining your marriage, you better read on to find a cure for it, because you can send your husband right to divorce court. I know it seems as if men are always doing something to provoke us into complaining, but its about self control. Men do not want to hear us constantly running our mouths and complaining all the time. They simply can\’t deal with it. I believe that they are not wired up for listening to all of that.

My brother always tell me, he can\’t deal with a woman with a mouth on her!!! He just can\’t do it. Take the time to sit down and talk to you husband, let him speak, and then you. Try to understand his point, don\’t yell, don\’t get all \”facial feature\” with him. If you don\’t come to a medium on the situation just go somewhere alone and regroup. Later on, I promise you things will clear up for the better.

Men, we don\’t mean to complaint so much, its just that we are really wired up something \”different\” and a lot of times when we don\’t understand, or agree, and our mouth is our weapon. We can tear some stuff up!!! LOL But it\’s not fair to you as the husband, or to your family.

Here\’s a video for ya.

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Why did I get married? …………PT6

I\’ve always said that in a relationship I can do away with a lot of things, but cheating is not one of them.

When you\’re married and have a family at home. A woman or man should never go outside of that marriage. It creates chaos and tension in the home. Being a single woman, I have seen the many effects that cheating in a relationship does. It tears down communication and trust. If the persons involved would take just a few seconds to create a mental picture of what it would be like to lose their family to cheating maybe it would stop them. To lose the home you work so hard for, the family you have, the loving wife who use to adore you, the husband who took you in his arms and told you over, and over how much he loved you would be a shame.

A lot of times people don\’t think about the consequences, they just act out on feelings. Its all cool to see old people that you use to kick it with, or people you had feelings for, but that should always remain in the past. They should never become a part of your present. This is your life, this is what you\’ve work so hard to get, don\’t lose it all just because you decided to step out of the marriage. Think about what you do, before you do it.

Look and follow this video closely, it just may save your marriage.

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Why did I get Married?………..PT5

I\’ve never been married, and I pray that one day God will bless me with a husband sent only from him.

I have several friends in my life whom I\’m Spiritually Connected with. Back in the day if we get into a debate or argument, I would just hang up the phone and that\’s the end of it. I will think about it and think about it, and call them and call them and probably wont sleep well until I make friends with them. Not because I wont apolize or they wont, but because we are connected spiritually and our souls wont rest until we come to peace with our situation. Its harder for me to move on, and for some reason I feel the need to make it right with them.

In a marriage, it should be that same way. When the wife is upset with her husband, or when the husband is upset with his wife, they shouldn\’t be able to do pretty much of anything, because they are not at peace with each other. If she leaves the house and goes to the store, if they are spiritually connected she will be thinking about him to and from. She/he will not use this time to \”go shopping\” or \”go see an old gurl/boyfriend\”, or \”call up his/her ex husband\”, or even go spend all the money that\’s in their joint account. This should be a renewal of the mind time. A time to focus on the situation, be ready to apolize, be ready to come to an medium and get home to his/her family. That\’s their time to spend with God or a close friend( if they visited one) who will tell them these same things.

I know people who were \”worldly connected\” with their spouse, and first sign of an debate or argument, they ran and slept with the people they wanted to sleep with all the time, but just didn\’t have the courage to do it when their marriage was at high times.

Being spiritually connected and worldly connected, will have you doing two different things. You need to decided after reading this, which is your marriage? Will you say after a heated debate…..Lord help me to mend this situation today, NOW LORD? Or did you take advantage of the situation and spent all the money shopping, called an ex, cursed him/her out to family and friends, call him/her names you normally wouldn\’t, blast him/her in front of the kids, did something you wouldn\’t normally do? ( The list can go on and on)

Take an inventory of your life, and make a choice to be Spiritually Connected to your spouse. You will be amazed at what God will do for your family.

Bear one another\’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Galatians 6:2 NRSV

Please……….Listen to the Love and the lyrics in this song

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Why did I get married?…….PT4

Today, this lady who works @ Marshall\’s came through my line with her husband and child. She asked me were we hiring and said that she wanted to work over nights for extra income. I guess she thought about what she wanted to do, and looked over at her husband and said something like this: Do you mind if I work over nights? She had this look on her face that she realized that she need to consult with her husband. It was done in such a loving way, she realized that she was thinking about this, without his knowledge.

Growing up, my mother use to ask my daddy all the time, do you mind if I do this, do you mind if I do that? And I would look at her as if to say………..why you always gotta ask him can you do something? I didn\’t know a thing about how marriage is suppose to go…….I was a young teen, and didn\’t any better.

I understand now, that In a marriage, you are suppose to check in with your spouse to see how they feel. To get their opinions on it, they have the right to know that things in the home is up for a change. There should never be a one sided deal in a marriage. This is where communication kicks in. When a decisions is about to be made, both parties should meet in the middle to discuss the ups and the downs of a change in their marriage. A lot of people make life decisions on their own without communicating with their spouse and this can ruin a marriage. Its simply not fair to the other party.

When she looked over at her husband, I thought it was the sweetest thing. I always say Communication is Everything!


Cree

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Why did I get married?…….. PT3

I use to be the junkiest person in the world. Yep, had \”bugs\” and everything. Never wanted to admit that I was living foul and \”messy as hell\”.

Good bye to those days. Thank you Jesus. If you find my house junkie, you must have visit me sick. Its funny to because my friends come over and I\’ll be like, my house is junkie, let me clean up right quick, and they would be like…………gurl you are crazy, this house is not junkie!!!!

It\’s hard for me to admit that I\’m not how I use to be. I use to hear, why are you so junkie Lacrease? It feels so good that I don\’t have to run and clean up whenever there\’s a knock at the door. I can answer it…………and then entertain my guest.

Men love a home thats nice and clean. They dread coming home to a house that smells, and dinner is not cooking. I hear debates about this issue all the time from both sides. I believe that cleaning the house should be both the husband and the wife duties. When they come home from work they are both tired, whats wrong with coming up with a plan and cleaning the house together? I personally feel that it can bring them closer because they are cleaning as a team.

I have a home office, and everything you can name, is in there………now ask me if that area is junkie?

Yep! Cause its mines and its off limits to the public!

God Bless

Cree

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Why did I get married?……….PT2

At dinner over to a friend\’s house, \”baby would you make me a plate?\” Me………………..thinking to myself, what\’s wrong with your hands?

Then God quickly reminded me of the times when I was single, the times when I prayed and asked him for a husband, the times when I begged him to send someone into my life, the times when the relationships before this beautiful man was nothing …………..worth mentioning. He bought to my remembrance that….

I\’m married now.

And my answer…

Yes, baby sure, I\’ll make you a plate, what would you like? Anything to drink?

I ……….. look at his face, he winks, I smile, he\’s happy, I\’m glad……………………… God spoke to me.

This is peace.

This is compromise.

This is giving.

This is sharing.

This is marriage.

This is LOVE

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Why did I get married?….. Pt1

Hey there,

Work was good today. Thank you Jesus. Since Neisha has been gone seems like things are coming along for me as far as missing her, we call each other everyday, she calls me before she goes to bed every night, she comes home on Thursday\’s and stay till Sunday. What more can you ask for? Which leads me to this:

I want to love again. I\’m excited about Tyler Perry\’s new movie \”Why did I get married\”? And every day leading up to it, I think more and more about marriage. Well, let me back up. I think more and more about meeting and dating someone. I haven\’t been looking \”cute\” lately, more so just stuck between Neisha being gone, hanging out more with my gurls, and on this computer all night. I am really starting to think more and more about meeting someone special.

Me and my brother was on the phone talking the other day, and he was telling me about this gurl he was dating, and how she loves to start arguments. The last time she did that, he grabbed his keys and walked out. I couldn\’t help but think about how I use to be. But you know, I\’m at that time in my life where I want to be happy. I want to love. I sit up and think about me with a guy whose face I can\’t see, dancing at our wedding to our first song. In this \” mental video\” that\’s playing in my head, I see myself looking up at him, and I\’m looking so pretty. OMG! He\’s looking down at me, as if we are the only ones in the room. I\’m just stuck on that scene. LOL I can\’ even hear the song……… \”Bed\” by J-Holiday. I love this song, its so romantic, its so \”grown folks\”. That song is not for kids, and Imma choke a kid if I see them singing my first wedding song. LOL This is for grown folks, we finally got us some music.

Back to my \”mental video\”.

Even though I want to be married someday, I\’m not willing to say \”I do\” if he is not the one for me to be with forever. God will have to tell him and me both that its meant to be. I don\’t think that a man should do things without his wife knowing about it, same for the wife. When a man is married they are a team. You know what\’s sexy to me? I mean sexy??? When a man says: my wife will kill me if I do this or that without her permission. I love it.That shows that he respects his wife enough to let her in on his decisions. She should/better do the same for him. My desire is to stay on the same page as my husband. I want us to always be on the same page. If we don\’t agree with something that\’s fine, we are not going to always agree, and I understand that, but I want to always come to a medium. That\’s what I want in my marriage. When I see myself slipping, I want God to pick me up and put me back on track with my husband.

I want to be so in tuned with my husband, that if we are out somewhere, and I\’m on one side of the room, and he\’s on another, talking, I want to be able to look into his eyes without him saying a word to me, and know how his last conversation went, I want to be able to tell when he\’s ready to go, when he\’s tired, or aint feeling the people he\’s chatting with. And I want him to be able to do the same for me. If you are so into yourself and what you are doing, you will miss that Love. I like to look into the eyes, it says so much.

I\’m gone to bed, I will continue off tomorrow. Here is a song that\’s playing right now in my heart.

Cree

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Trustworthy

Hey,

Work was cool today. Thank you Jesus. It was one lady who tried to work me out but it didn\’t work, all I kept thinking was “Let it go” Let it go”. LOL.

Today I wanted to talk about an integrity issue. As you all know I work for Walmart, and I have to be honest here, back in my early 20’s I use to work for a drug store, and I was not an honest cashier. I started off working and paying for my things just like the next person. I don’t remember how or what made me start stealing, but once I started, I couldn\’t stop. As a matter of fact my issue of stealing got bigger and bigger, and before it was over……I was called to the office, and pressed to confess. That was the last time I ever stole anything in my life.

I was a cosmetics coordinator, trusted by everyone. When they found out that I was stealing, they were in shock, jaws dropped, I was ashamed and embarrassed as lost prevention told me to leave the store and never return again. (Reminds of me Adam and Eve) I have never stolen anything from anyone, but my reason then was that the store was rich and they could afford it. Lame I know!!!

When I saw Judy, @ Walmart, the gurl who worked side by side with me at the drug store. I was feeling funny, cause I know, I hurt her. I know I did. But for some reason, I wanted to let her know that I am not the same person that I was 11 years ago. I bet she probably wasn’t even thinking about that stuff. But I was, and I’m glad that my daddy ( God) know that I am not that same person anymore, and I don’t have to stress about who knows what about how I use to be. No matter what, I still feel as though I owe her a personal apology. Just for the fact that I know, she trusted me and never expected this reason for me being fired. I will probably feel that way, until I can tell her that face to face.

Which leads me to my growth and employment at Walmart. Ive been there for 4 years, and I/have never stolen anything…ever. I don’t even think about it. I know I’ve been changed. God has blessed me so dearly that I could never steal anything from anyone. People at my job trust me, and I will never do anything to jeopardize that again. Its funny that I mention this, because people come through my line, see my friendly face, and think that they can bribe me. I just shake my head, they have no idea that I’m looking for someone to apologize to someone for the theft I did 11 years ago. Please! They change sticker prices and expect me to honor it. I can’t, it’s something inside of me that can’t let this slide anymore. I know it’s God, that stuff does not belong to me. There is nothing you can say to get me to do anything against Wal-Mart especially when it comes to THEIR merchandise. That stuff does not belong to me, they hired me to be the accountant of their money, and I’m going to do just that. When people say to me ( guess to test me), just put that in the bag, let me have it, mark that down for me.. I say to them, I can give you anything that belongs to me if you ask, but not Wal-Mart’s. I told several customers they can call the 1-800 Wal-Mart number and ask one of Sam’s sons if they can have it. They laugh because they feel where I am coming from…………and plus I’m silly.

I have everything in my home/life that I could ever ask for, and MORE! Those days of stealing are over for me, and I thank God for all that I have learned . I’m so gone from my ways, that its not even about “getting fired” any more. Its\’ about what is God going to say to me at night when I’m alone? What is God feeling about what I did? It’s about the trust he has for me. It’s about what price will I have to be punished by? And as far as I can see, aint nothing in this world that good, for me to have to go home and face God on the same charges. NOPE, can’t even do it.

Guess, I’m saying in this entry is, if you are in charge of children, treat them well. If it is the elderly, watch over them. If God put you in charge of teens, take care of them too. If it’s over expensive merchandise, watch over it as your own. If its someone’s home, make sure you are keeping it clean. When people trust you, and you have proven that you are trust worthy. It will take you a long way.

I’m off to bed, Good night

Cree

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\”A season of \”Let it go\”

Hey ((((waving))))

How was your weekend? Mines was good. Me and my 2 co workers went to dinner tonight, we sat and laugh for almost 4 hours. That\’s a long time. I bet the guy who did our table was like \”dang when are they leaving\”. For $21.00 a person, sho won\’t be in an hour. LOL My sister Yolanda wanted to go to the movies with her husband, so that was cool, and my other sister came home from work late and was looking for her dog. Which brings me to this story. She pulled up in my drive way and I could tell something was wrong as I walked to her truck. She let her miniature Doberman outside @ 4:00am to use the bathroom, but instead of my sister putting her on the chain, she was sleepy and went back to lay down. Normally foo foo would bark, scratch, or wait on the porch until they open the door to get her. Well, this morning when my sister woke up, she realized that foo foo was still outside and went to go let her in, but she wasn\’t there. My sister went to work, and got a call that she still hadn\’t returned. Foo foo is my baby. I love that \”little gurl\”. I call her my niece. When my sister told me that she was out looking for her, I instantly wanted to cry. She saw it in my eyes. I didn\’t even want to talk about it anymore. I told Neisha she is so sad, I took her back to school today, and she was quiet. She spent a lot of time with Foo foo, when she would go over to see my sister and her cousins, Foo foo would have a fit if Neisha didn\’t show her some love first. Foo foo is a dog that thinks she\’s a person. If you sit on the couch, and decide to get up, when you get back Foo foo is going to be sitting in your spot. And if you try to move her, she is going to growl, and show her teeth, knowing doggone well she won\’t hurt a fly. I\’m praying for her return, she has never ever left like this. If she leaves, she\’ll come home within a few hours. I love her so much, I just don\’t know what to say. I feel like crying. I\’m sad.

Tomorrow is another workday 11-8. I\’m going to knock these hours out, come home take a nap, and brainstorm for my gurls group.

I know I\’m rambling, but I learned something new about myself today. I have got to STOP being so motherly to Neisha. She is grown, on her own and in school doing her thang. Tonight while unloading the car @ her school, because she came home this weekend. These 2 guys were walking pass, staring at her, he was STARING, out the blue he said, hey do you have a boyfriend with your fine self\’? I looked at him, I said boo, I\’m her mother, how are you gon just say that to her in front of me? He goes \”Oh I\’m sorry I didn\’t know you were her mother. So, I\’m like its okay boo, but YEAHA I\’M HER MOMMA. Neisha smiled and we went into the building to her room. After a while I saw her laughing trying not to let me see. I laughed too and said Neisha why are you laughing? She said \”ma, I\’m thinking about what you said to that guy on the way up. So, I\’m thinking to myself, I need to back off and let herhandle things her own way. I can tell maybe I caught all of them off guard. She said momma you want to look young those other days, LOL but this time you let him know you are my momma. ROFL!! Im like sho did!! Boy, I tell ya, your kids get grown and move out, then you find yourself still being their \”momma\”. I gotta \”Let it go\”.

See, I already feel that God has me in this season of \”Let it go\”! I feel it. I know it.There has been too many situations LATELY, where God has me seeing things, and having me to be quiet, to not ask questions. He\’s teaching me to \”Let it Go\”. When my sister told me that Foo foo was lost, I asked her how come you didn\’t put her on the chain, she said cause she was sleepy. I was about to get upset, I had to turn my head and look down the street.I heard God say \”Let it go\”. I\’m like I can\’t let this go, he said, you got too, cause there is nothing YOU can do about it. I went in the house and sat down. When Im on Tyler Perry\’s message board, and those people start posting mean stuff and going back and forth, I get upset for a mintue. I love him, they can\’t be disrespecting his message board. But when/if I respond, I realize that Im adding to what I dont like. So lately, I havent been responding, just \”Letting it go.\” It feels kinda good, to turn my head and know that its out of my hands, for once I feel as if I DONT have to \”handle it\”. Being the oldest is a trip sometimes. Still trying to look out of others.

My friend Kiki was suppose to go to dinner with us.( My friend is a DRAMA QUEEN TO THE 1000TH POWER! Imma share one of her outlandish stories on another day. Yall are going to die when I tell this!!!!) It was after 4 and time to go, so she says well I\’m not going, I\’m full. I said what you mean you\’re full? She said I just finish eating. I said Kiki why would you eat, and its time to go to dinner? She said cause I was hungry. See my friend is crazy like that, she kills me with that nonchalant attitude. I laugh when she tell me stories of how she be doing to other people ( nothing bad), but next time I\’ll have to pull out my nun chucks when she does me like that. I wanted to go through the phone and pull her teeth out in the back ( she need her front ones). That\’s how upset she made me. I heard God say…………Lacrease \”Let it Go\”. I said alright gurl, let me get off this phone, and I\’ll talk to you later. (that\’s my get off the phone sentence when I\’m mad LOL) I hung up.

Oh let me go back to Neisha ( Neisha\’s dorm). So we gets up to her room, where she share with one other gurl. Her roommate has a boyfriend who goes to Wayne State as well. Well, I guess he doesn\’t have a room on campus, so she moves him in with them, and now its 3 to a room!!! You know I\’m pissed off right? That room cost OVER $6,000 for 8 MONTHS and this gurl moved her man up in there. Neisha being the person she is () saying that she can stick it out until May of next year, and that this is a learning experience for her, which is good, but this gurl is clearly out of order!!! Yall know I want to go \”Madea\” on her and \”GET HER GURL\”. But you know what? God told me tonight…… \”Let it go\”. If Neisha is cool with it, then I should be. When Neisha gets feed up with him being there, without him paying not one dime, that\’s cool with me. She has to live there. At least she has her own private room, with a lock and key. She said that this has been a learning experience, so I\’m cool with the fact that she WILL speak up if she needs too, and that she is learning something about people. There comes a time when you have to let you child learn on their own. Couldn\’t be me, that\’s all I gotta say. Couldn\’t be me!!!!

I\’m on my way to bed, I had only 3 hours of sleep last night, I don\’t know why I\’m not in bed yet. Guess I need to get this off my chest.

Cree

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